There's really no way for the XP installation to impact the OS X installation; your computer is either booted into OS X OR XP, and they don't interact at all. Your OS X installation will see the XP partition, and depending on the format you use for that partition you can read and maybe write to it, but XP itself just can't touch what OS X does.
In the XP Control Panel there's an applet called Startup Disk. That will tell your computer which OS you want to boot from.