First, what exactly is the problem you are having? You wrote a long list without really describing the main issue at hand it seems. Is the problem with mounting them in a mac, or with standalone DVD players?
As far as LaCie, they are a quality brand and I doubt they manufacture their own drive mechanisms. Most likely, the actual drive inside the LaCie case is a Pioneer or other major name brand. You should be able to find out through Apple System Profiler.
I also seriously doubt the 8x burning speed is causing the problems. Was the media originally rated 8x? Or are you using 4x media at a faster speed? That could be a problem.
Really don't think Toast is causing the issue(s). If it burned successfully in Toast, without any errors, then by all likelyhood, you can trust that it was produced fine.
DL DVD burners are still in their infancy yet. There aren't any DVD-R DL burners on the market even. Also, I would suspect that there would be a compatibility issue with older DVD players. I know I have seen some DVD-/+R discs that wouldn't mount in an older DVD player, simply because the drive in the DVD player couldn't read that type of disc. Although, most newer players don't experience this problem. And another issue you could be having is with the media itself. There are some brands of media out there that just suck and don't play well with others. If you bought some really, really cheap brand of media, then that could be the issue itself.
Per the issue of the disc stopping playback in the middle, that is very likely a case of the disc coming to the end of the first layer and needing to switch to the second, but for some reason it couldn't. This could be because of the media, but most likely it is the player if the same disc was able to play fine on another player. Also, if the disc were scratched in a way to make it difficult to playback successfully, that is obviously another possible reason. Some DVD players are complete crap when it comes to being able to read over scratches on a disc.