ok, so here i am replying to myself. found out that reading the class description helps.
i can actually, well, influence the divider's position by simply setting the frame of the two views within the splitview. simple.
so now, everything works as i thought it would. kind of.
if i slowly resize the window, it indeed won't resize the one view to something smaller than a certain size because i check that view's frame and if necessary set it to something bigger.
but... if i resize the window very quickly, it seems that the NSSplitViewWillResizeSubviewsNotification is being sent too late, for a fraction of a second, the view does get too small and some of the things i got in my view change their position like in an application which was badly designed in ib; buttons are atop each other.
so, i also react to the main window's windowWillResize:toSize: and check the size of the view there -- doesn't look better, either.
does anybody know why that notification is being sent so late and why my delegate isn't being called in time?