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Destonius · May 2, 2005, 03:51 AM

I've been having an affair with a married girl for few years and she just dumped me today.
(I was dating her before she got married, so it's a bit complicated.)

Anyway, I was away for few months abroad travelling and she met someone else during
that period. He knew about her husband and me, but he went ahead and made the move.
Now, that b&^ch is in love and wants to split with me permanently. Bluh, bluh, bluh.

I know where he works in town and I'm about to confront him with vengeance Kill Bill style.
I don't want to get her husband involved at all, but I got some evidences that
he would hate to see. I just wrote her a final warning e-mail, but I know that there's
nothing you can do once a girl changes her mind. I know that it's not cool to threaten the girl,
but I just can't let it go like this. It's a matter of principle. I'll give her a day to reply me before I make any moves.

Any suggestions?

Randman · May 2, 2005, 03:56 AM

You're a pr1ck for messing around with a married woman, regardless of if you started the affair before her wedding. And she's pretty trashy for having an affair in the first place.

Secondly, your thinking of striking back shows you're immature. She could turn around and file harassment/stalking charges on you.

Move on, grow up and try and meet chicks who aren't attached next time.

RonnieoftheRose · May 2, 2005, 04:03 AM

Originally Posted by Destonius

I've been having an affair with a married girl for few years and she just dumped me today.

You're a moron.

(I was dating her before she got married, so it's a bit complicated.)

She's a moron too.

Any suggestions?

Some clever bastard once said there are plenty of fish in the sea. The question that should be on your mind now is, "Why was I such a moron?" Instead of taking your anger out on others when you're a moron, take your anger out on yourself and move on. That's having principles.

sminch · May 2, 2005, 04:05 AM

Any suggestions?

i've got one - grow up.

sminch

tavilach · May 2, 2005, 04:12 AM

Originally Posted by Destonius

I've been having an affair with a married girl for few years and she just dumped me today.
(I was dating her before she got married, so it's a bit complicated.)

Anyway, I was away for few months abroad travelling and she met someone else during
that period. He knew about her husband and me, but he went ahead and made the move.
Now, that b&^ch is in love and wants to split with me permanently. Bluh, bluh, bluh.

I know where he works in town and I'm about to confront him with vengeance Kill Bill style.
I don't want to get her husband involved at all, but I got some evidences that
he would hate to see. I just wrote her a final warning e-mail, but I know that there's
nothing you can do once a girl changes her mind. I know that it's not cool to threaten the girl,
but I just can't let it go like this. It's a matter of principle. I'll give her a day to reply me before I make any moves.

Any suggestions?

When you have an affair with a woman behind her husband's back, it's okay, but when she is in love (or making "love") with someone else, you want revenge? Not only are you filth (as is she), but you're a hypocrite...

Destonius · May 2, 2005, 04:20 AM

Bluh, bluh, bluh. People have affairs. What else is new?

Yeah, I know I'm a moron for getting involved in the first place,
but the emotion is a powerful thing, you know.
It's so easy to moralize about something like this until it hits you.
One of you could end up in one in the future. Then you'll know what I mean.

Yes, I'm pissed off at the guy. That has nothing to do with her marriage.

By the way, your comments are asking helping me set my head straight. Thanks.

Randman · May 2, 2005, 04:24 AM

You're messing around with a married chick. She's cheating. You're not very bright if you didn't realize you're the other guy. You were a fling for her, otherwise why else did she still get married?

If you're angry, you should be angry at yourself.

Find a chick who's unattached and don't cheat on her. You'll be happier in the long run.

Captain Obvious · May 2, 2005, 04:30 AM

lol, all the condemnation.

You're all morons for thinking this is a legitimate story.

Why would anyone plan retribution but first post asking for suggestions on the best way to do it. Its a pretty simple process especially if one already has the means to do it.
Then the story is stupid. He under the guise she is in love with him while married to someone else even though he preceded the marriage? So he is angered when she meets someone else. Was he not pissed about the husband to begin with? The whole thing was cooked up to get a rise out of you people and there you went chasing after the carrot.

Here's a more believable scenario: Link and Tavich got invited to the playboy mansion last weekend and the playmates found them so irresistible they stood line to let the boys have their way with them.
Twice!

Destonius · May 2, 2005, 04:36 AM

She wanted to marry me, but I didn't want to marry anyone back then.
She felt that she had to get married because of external pressure, so she got married
to someone she didn't love that much. He was a substitute. Sad but true.
I didnt' see her for two years, but when we did, the old flame got ignited and the rest is history.
She really wanted to divorce her husband and marry me until this guy showed up last month.
So, I wasn't the substitute.

I know what you are all saying about the affair. It ain't cool.
This is the second affair in my life and it will be the last.
I just want to set the score straight with the guy. That's all.
Then, I'll go on with my life. After all, there are trillions of cuties here in Tokyo.

effgee · May 2, 2005, 04:37 AM

Originally Posted by Destonius

I've been having an affair with a married girl for few years and she just dumped me today. ... I'll give her a day to reply me before I make any moves. Any suggestions?

Why would you be angry with the guy who she dumped you for? You got involved with some chick who was willing to cheat on her husband to be with you and now you're surprised that she (to some degree) did the same thing to you that she'd been doing to her husband all along?

LOL.

You have no one to blame but yourself ...

for thinking that a story like this would/could/should go on indefinitely
for trusting a woman who obviously can't even spell the words "moral" and "honesty"
for being a bit on the gullible side
for never wondering why she married that other guy instead of you in the first place

I think it's pretty safe to assume that, at one point or another and oftentimes against better judgement/advice, most of us made somewhat similar mistakes (wasting time with some chick/guy who wasn't worth the change in your pocket). My advice: find a constructive outlet for your anger, file the whole story under "F" (= forgettable) and move on to a better woman - there's tons of them out there.

Destonius · May 2, 2005, 04:38 AM

Actually, I didn't post to ask for advices on revenge.
I don't even know why I made a post to begin with.
I'm sitting in front of my PB with a broken heart with nothing to do.
Maybe that's why. Sigh...

Destonius · May 2, 2005, 04:46 AM

Actually, I'm very lucky that her suicide bomber tactic never worked.
Her plan, in hindsight, was :
1. Get pregnant somehow
2. Get a divorce, using the pregnancy as the reason.
I would've had to pay her husband tons of cash in compensation. (by Japanese law)
Plus, all the family mess. (her family, his family, my family)
3. Marry me, again using the pregnancy as the reason.
Lesson learned : always use the rubber right from the beginning and never use ultra thin models. They break.

I still want to smack the guy Sin City style, but I'm starting to feel a bit better already.
At least, I'm still single and free. All I need now is the job that I'm waiting the interview for.

Big Mac · May 2, 2005, 04:50 AM

Write it off, dude. You're a despondent, jilted lover out for satisfaction, but it sounds like there is a ton of baggage attached to this relationship, and you'll gain nothing by being vindictive. Start fresh before you make a decision you'll rapidly come to regret.

RonnieoftheRose · May 2, 2005, 04:52 AM

Originally Posted by Destonius

I'm sitting in front of my PB with a broken heart with nothing to do.

Moron. Download some porn or go to work. Bloody hikikomori. All that emotional stuff is for people who think that movie romance crap is for real. Buzz buzz. They make money selling that sentimental crap. Romeo and Juliet? Shakespeare wouldn't have died for anyone. He was out clubbing. So should you.

Sell those stupid iPods and buy yourself a new Mac!

Destonius · May 2, 2005, 04:58 AM

Excuse me, I'm not a hikikomori. Thank you very much.
I am just waiting for some job interviews this week after a long term travel.
I've only been sitting in front of my PB for 1.5 hour.
It's only been 2.5 hours since the notice, so, yes, I'm a bit dark.

Randman · May 2, 2005, 05:03 AM

Dude, she played you like a Stradivarius.

Now, for the serious question: You're in Tokyo and complaining about chicks?

Hawkeye_a · May 2, 2005, 05:13 AM

What goes around comes around.

What makes you angry with him ? isnt she responsible as well ?...heck you should be angry with all involved including urself.

Destonius · May 2, 2005, 05:20 AM

I'll drop by the guy's work tomorrow evening and smack him around few times
Joe Pesci style and forget about it. I don't care about her anymore, but I've got to
get him back. He too is guilty of cheating on her husband, so we are even Steven.
So, it's about me and my principles. I'm not afraid to meet myself in the Dark Side.

Yeah, Japanese girls are great to look at, aren't they?
They are some of the dumbest chicks in the world though.
Guess that doesn't really matter. Does it?

RonnieoftheRose · May 2, 2005, 05:23 AM

Originally Posted by Destonius

I'll drop by the guy's work tomorrow evening and smack him around few times
Joe Pesci style and forget about it. I don't care about her anymore, but I've got to
get him back. He too is guilty of cheating on her husband, so we are even Steven.
So, it's about me and my principles. I'm not afraid to meet myself in the Dark Side.

Don't forget to ask the police if they have wireless broadband in jail.

Randman · May 2, 2005, 05:28 AM

Chick is smarter that you dude. She used you.

Be funny if you go over there and he and his friends kick your ass. That'll show all of them.

Serious dude, grab a six-pack and quit sulking over the fact that you're neither good enough for her to marry you (or not marry someone else) nor good enough to stick with as she's already moved on to some other flavour of the month. Maybe you can try for sloppy fourths once she tires of the new penis in her life.

storer · May 2, 2005, 05:39 AM

You deserve it, stupid. Messing around with another man's wife is one way to get hated quickly.

effgee · May 2, 2005, 05:44 AM

Originally Posted by Randman

... Maybe you can try for sloppy fourths once she tires of the new penis in her life.

"Sloppy fourths"? Eeeewwww.

Now that mental image I did notneed. I'll be skipping lunch today ...

Destonius · May 2, 2005, 06:08 AM

There's a difference between choosing not to marry someone and not being good enough
to get married. Marriage isn't the ultimate goal of life for everyone, you know.

Yeah, adultery is bad, ozone hole is bad, etc, but life isn't so straight and simple.
Like I said, the fact that she's married isn't an issue.

sideus · May 2, 2005, 06:18 AM

Originally Posted by sminch

i've got one - grow up.

Destonius · May 2, 2005, 06:27 AM

F&%& it. I'm heading over right now.
Off to Roppongi I go.

(no, he's not tied to yakuza. Bastard isn't Japanese.)

tavilach · May 2, 2005, 06:30 AM

Originally Posted by Captain Obvious

lol, all the condemnation.

You're all morons for thinking this is a legitimate story.

Why would anyone plan retribution but first post asking for suggestions on the best way to do it. Its a pretty simple process especially if one already has the means to do it.
Then the story is stupid. He under the guise she is in love with him while married to someone else even though he preceded the marriage? So he is angered when she meets someone else. Was he not pissed about the husband to begin with? The whole thing was cooked up to get a rise out of you people and there you went chasing after the carrot.

Here's a more believable scenario: Link and Tavich got invited to the playboy mansion last weekend and the playmates found them so irresistible they stood line to let the boys have their way with them.
Twice!

I figured that it could be BS, but I decided to assume it wasn't. And for the record, I did get invited to the Playboy mansion last weekend, and the playmates did have their way with me...

Thrice!

P.S. It's either Tavi or tavilach. Where'd you get Tavich?

Zimphire · May 2, 2005, 06:43 AM

Originally Posted by Randman

You're a pr1ck for messing around with a married woman, regardless of if you started the affair before her wedding. And she's pretty trashy for having an affair in the first place.

Secondly, your thinking of striking back shows you're immature. She could turn around and file harassment/stalking charges on you.

Move on, grow up and try and meet chicks who aren't attached next time.

What he said.

storer · May 2, 2005, 06:51 AM

As well: Her new bloke deserves her if he knew that she was a cheater and got with her.

Goldfinger · May 2, 2005, 07:02 AM

Thread of the week.

AKcrab · May 2, 2005, 07:06 AM

Originally Posted by Destonius

Like I said, the fact that she's married isn't an issue.

trip · May 2, 2005, 07:10 AM

I had a friend in exactly your shoes.

Originally Posted by Destonius

I know where he works in town and I'm about to confront him with vengeance Kill Bill style.

Why ? and your issue is with him is... ? what did he do wrong ? other than be normal and try to get a girl. Obviously your directing your anger at anyone other than the person who deserves it.....HER

Originally Posted by Destonius

Any suggestions?

Personally - I'd move on and try to find people worth my involvement.

BUT - You and I both know you can't do that right ? I mean that's why you're here.
So...

'Friends plus'. It's what my buddy did. Life is toooooooooo short to ruin the fun with anger.
Just have patience. Getting a girl is so easy, getting the right girl is the hard part, but since were past that all you got to do is keep the communication lines open and steer her in the right direction. Keep plugin away (a positive way). Keep the force luke!

mdc · May 2, 2005, 07:31 AM

Originally Posted by Destonius

I'll drop by the guy's work tomorrow evening and smack him around few times
Joe Pesci style and forget about it. I don't care about her anymore, but I've got to
get him back. He too is guilty of cheating on her husband, so we are even Steven.
So, it's about me and my principles. I'm not afraid to meet myself in the Dark Side.

Yeah, Japanese girls are great to look at, aren't they?
They are some of the dumbest chicks in the world though.
Guess that doesn't really matter. Does it?

you seem so upset with suitor number 3 and want to beat the crap out of him, but all you are is suitor number 2, so shouldn't suitor number 1 (aka. the husband) have the right to kick the crap out of both you and suitor number 3?

what goes around comes around, remember that.

regardless of whether this is all true or not, i'm bored, and this is keeping me amused.

Randman · May 2, 2005, 07:33 AM

He keeps mentioning Joe Pesci, but I don't think he's ever seen a movie with Joe in it since Joe usually doesn't make it to the end of the film.

meelk · May 2, 2005, 07:54 AM

I'd say if your post is real you have serious mental and emotional issues.
Perhaps you should remove yourself from the gene pool with shotgun therapy.

scaught · May 2, 2005, 08:08 AM

this is great.

guy gets with unfaithful girl, unfaithful girl continues to be unfaithful. its like, didnt you know that going in?

ThisGuy · May 2, 2005, 08:10 AM

starman · May 2, 2005, 08:11 AM

Don't feed the troll.

Destonius · May 2, 2005, 08:24 AM

I'm back. I'm not a troll. Why do you accuse people with different opinions as being trolls?
Did I offend you in PSP thread or something? Jeezus.
Damn, don't you guys have life too? Don't things go whack on you sometimes!?
Are you all virtuous saints or something!?

Turns out, the girl was there at his restaurant in Roppongi.
There weren't any customers, but I didn't want to start anything up in the restaurant,
so I told him to step outside for a minute. He doesn't speak much Japanese or English,
but he knew what was up, so we were getting pretty damn aggresive to each other
before we could even get outside. I couldn't really take a swing at him because
of the tight space and the chef and the girl holding me back and all. I got him in the gut once, but that's about it.

Real problem was that the restaurant was right near the Roppongi intersection with
the police station right near us. I was hoping that the location would be somewhere else
with less population, but the stage was really bad for both of us : I'm getting ready for new job
and he's waiting for working visa clearance. The girl chilled us down and he went back to the restaurant while I talked with her.

She told me about how pathetic I was, how much she hated me, etc.
You know the whole jive girls say went they break up with you. What a biiiitcccch.
Whole thing was futile and absurd, but I'm glad that I didn't just let them screw over me.

She is coming over tomorrow to talk. So next question is, what the hell do I talk about?
I'm not going to smack her or anything, but I'm not going to be a happy camper for sure.
What the hell.

Destonius · May 2, 2005, 08:27 AM

By the way, what the hell is 'Friends plus'?
This isn't it, is it?
https://www.vectrensource.com/web/pr...nds_plus_i.jsp

storer · May 2, 2005, 08:34 AM

It's amazing how stupid some people are. Why would you get with someone who is married? This means they are unfaithful. Doesn't that sort of hint as to what you're in for?

Goldfinger · May 2, 2005, 08:36 AM

Originally Posted by Destonius

Damn, don't you guys have life too? Don't things go whack on you sometimes!?

Yes we do have a life and yes not everything goes as we would like. But "revenge" is immature and dumb. It's something you do when you're 14 years old.

ThisGuy · May 2, 2005, 08:42 AM

Originally Posted by Destonius

a bunch of jibber jabber
"Are you all virtuous saints or something!?"
a bunch of pathetic jibber jabber

just because some of us wouldn't go around threatening women and starting fights does not make any of us virtuous. so you got dumped by some stupid girl. so what? why care? move on to something better. it sure sounds like you could use a healthy relationship. doing what you are doing really is kinda pathetic. just walk away and move on with your pathetic life... i mean move on with your life.

Randman · May 2, 2005, 08:43 AM

Originally Posted by Destonius

She told me about how pathetic I was

She's right. That's why she started cheating on you. She's sleeping with her husband, this dude and who knows who else.

And you're a dumb as a rock and are falling for it.

James L · May 2, 2005, 08:45 AM

Assuming this story is real....

YOU and the OTHER GUY are EXACTLY the same! She was with her husband, and you screwed around with her. Then, she was with you and her husband (slut), and she screwed around with another guy too.

Why are you mad at the other guy? It certainly can't be an "honor" issue (as in he somehow betrayed you) as you have no honor for being with a married chick in the first place.

If you have to direct your anger anywhere, direct it at the chick who can't keep her legs closed and used all three of you.

The other dude simply did the same thing you did, and is no better, or worse, than you are.

Going down to attack him? What are you, 12?

Move on.

OldManMac · May 2, 2005, 08:45 AM

Funny stuff!

Randman · May 2, 2005, 08:47 AM

This is too funny,

You're angry at some guy because some slutty (married) chick who's using you prefers to sleep with him over you?

BEST THREAD EVAR!

Lancer409 · May 2, 2005, 08:58 AM

Originally Posted by Captain Obvious

Here's a more believable scenario: Link and Tavich got invited to the playboy mansion last weekend and the playmates found them so irresistible they stood line to let the boys have their way with them.
Twice!

Zing!

Destonius · May 2, 2005, 08:59 AM

Believe it or not, she wants to marry the guy now.
(She's been wanting to move to Thailand and the easiest way to get the visa is marriage.)

What I did is stupid, I know, and I never, ever do anything emotional, but I'm not embarrassed to have done what I did. I can handle an episode like this one in my life. Just once. That's it. I'm already feeling a lot better than I was before I went out tonight.

Seems that lot of you guys are students or without real-life experiences.
Stuff like this is pretty common, you know.

storer · May 2, 2005, 09:09 AM

^^ That doesn't make it right. Don't justify it to yourself. You will always know what you did was very wrong.

You obviously don't have enough life experience if you think that this is ok. Get out there, see some ****. Then come back and call us unrealistic.

effgee · May 2, 2005, 09:12 AM

Originally Posted by Destonius

... Seems that lot of you guys are students or without real-life experiences. ...

Yes daddy - and thank you for that valuable lesson, daddy. We'll try harder next time, daddy. Promise.

When I finally grow up, I too want get into a fist fight over some slut who dumped me - finally something to aspire to! Thank you, daddy!