[tavilach]

I've been reading that understanding the troubles of others boosts your own happiness, and everyone is less fortunate than you in one way or another. It's actually not selfish at all, as those who become happy this way are usually very likely to help others.

In any case, I figured that a thread in which we all state a few of our primary troubles would be a mutual happiness booster. I'll start:

Edit: I was hesitant to make my list long, as I didn't know if I'd be flamed. Now that I see that this thread is going in the right direction, I've extended my list.

• Every day, I feel that my life is passing me by, while I sit on my ass accomplishing nothing.
• I have had horrible stomache discomfort (much like an ulcer or acid reflux) for about a year, and I feel like utter crap after eating just about anything, or when I get stressed. The doctor is still trying to diagnose my problem.
• My family moved across the country a week after I started Berkeley (last year), and it is very hard for me to maintain contact with my high school friends, especially with this time zone shift.
• Due to car registration issues, I haven't been able to drive my car all summer, and summer is half over.
• I always feel that I don't have enough "stuff," especially technology-wise.
• I have yet to experience anything remotely close to love, aside from that which I get from my family. It would be nice to have a companion is this lonely universe.
• I form large and ugly scars very easily, and I therefore have to be extremely careful about scraping or cutting myself. Surgery is definetely a no go if I can help it.
• I don't feel good about my physical appearance (namely my weight), but I'm having trouble doing anything about it.
• I have no confidence, and always second-guess myself.
• My Mac was in the shop for the past four weeks (for a repair that ended up taking two days), and I haven't felt comfortable using my PC to work on my personal website (which I had repeatedly promised friends I'd work on), and to chat online.

Of course, there's much more where that came from .

I would appreciate it if no one responded to specific troubles mentioned in this thread, as this is not meant for moping or complaining. You can be honest about what's bothering you without crying for help.

I hope others list their troubles, or else I'll look like a whining fool. Everyone has troubles, whether or not others would regard them as such: Please, list away .

[ManOfSteal]

I can't wait for wdlove's response to this thread.

[tavilach]

Originally Posted by ManOfSteal

I can't wait for wdlove's response to this thread.

He's definetely a happy person, and I'm sure we could all learn a great deal from him in that regard. Nevertheless, everyone has troubles. He doesn't focus on them, but it'd be nice if he could list a few .

[Albert Pujols]

Only problem I have is that I ruined my Fn' passport and I have to get a new one fast.

[tavilach]

Originally Posted by Albert Pujols

Only problem I have is that I ruined my Fn' passport and I have to get a new one fast.

I wholeheartedly don't believe you . You don't have any issues with your job, your love life, other people, possessions, companies, dentists, rats, etc.? I'm not asking if you're happy, because you can be happy even if you have troubles. But everyone has troubles.

[TailsToo]

Ummm.. my job forces me to live in Dallas, but my heart lies back east!

[Albert Pujols]

Originally Posted by tavilach

I wholeheartedly don't believe you .

yeah?

[Ghoser777]

Not enough action.

[Geo669]

Well everyone experiences the worst sometimes, you have to stay positive.
In relation to your stomach issue, its so weird for you to say it because its the exact problem that I have/had.

Whenever i drank (alcohol) or ate anything, i felt like throwing up, and it wasnt directly involved with alcohol as well. Stress related issues would cause it also. I weighed 50kilos, which is 110 pounds at one stage.

I've overcome it now, I never went to the doctor, I dislike the doctor. I just put myself in a routine and now get it occassionally.

[iLikebeer]

Originally Posted by Geo669

Well everyone experiences the worst sometimes, you have to stay positive.
In relation to your stomach issue, its so weird for you to say it because its the exact problem that I have/had.

Whenever i drank (alcohol) or ate anything, i felt like throwing up, and it wasnt directly involved with alcohol as well. Stress related issues would cause it also. I weighed 50kilos, which is 110 pounds at one stage.

I've overcome it now, I never went to the doctor, I dislike the doctor. I just put myself in a routine and now get it occassionally.

Those stomach problems sound like symptoms from serious stress and I think are very common. People usually don't like to talk about their problems and pretend everything is ok so, they don't see the connection.
-I've been having a bit of the same recently, and it stems from missing someone a lot more than I thought I would.
-Also, it's only been 2 days, but this broken foot really sucks.
-All of my good friends here have already graduated, so I get really bored sometimes.
Nothing else too bad really, I just try to focus on the good in each situation.

[Geo669]

Originally Posted by iLikebeer

Those stomach problems sound like symptoms from serious stress and I think are very common. People usually don't like to talk about their problems and pretend everything is ok so, they don't see the connection.
-I've been having a bit of the same recently, and it stems from missing someone a lot more than I thought I would.
-Also, it's only been 2 days, but this broken foot really sucks.
-All of my good friends here have already graduated, so I get really bored sometimes.
Nothing else too bad really, I just try to focus on the good in each situation.

Yeh, its heavily dependant on stress, I think with my situation, After a incident, I developed more of a social fear, which triggered this off for me. I didn't enjoy going out with friends, etc.

Mainly because Id be feeling sick, the entire time i was out, my comfort zone was home.
But, its all past me now. Most of the time, people feel depressed and its warrented, although, playing on it, seems like a normal thing to do, people like to feel displaced, and depressed, and people like when other people think that they are depressed, and negative.

[Superchicken]

I always talk about my problems that's one of the reasons very few things overwhelm me any more. I'll rant and rave about em to a friend, venting helps so much. My third room mate lived across the hall from me first year and I vented to him all the time about my first room mate who was a massive ass.

That said lately my only problems really go with the sale of my Gma's house and getting the money from that, plus my sister might be moving back into our house. Which means as soon as I can afford it I'm moving out. Just encase you didn't know my sister is gona be a husband beater She's just about incapable of not talking to me in a normal voice, it's a constant yell. When friends ask why we don't get along, I've just taken to saying, "She has severe anger management problems".

Not to mention I'm a wee bit stressed out about is the fact that I was hoping to intern at my church this year, but I haven't gotten a yes or no on it yet. Partly because I'm waiting on my prof to mail the church explaining what an internship would entail.

But yah that's about it for me. The most frustrating stuff is to do with my family which is why I'm moving out as soon as I have the money from the house sale and a roomie.

[Athens]

I’m in love and in a relationship with some one that just can’t love back
I’m in a dead end job
Its graveyard shift which means less sleep, and no chance to socialize with my friends
Not making enough money
Not enough time
Dental Problems
Eating problems
Dyslexia
Sleep Problems
Self Esteem problems
Self Image problems
Credibility problems
Finical Problems
Relationship problems
Stress / Anger problems

I know I’m better of dead.

[MindFad]

EVERYTHING. Caps because it means I'm serious.

[andreas_g4]

I was left by my girlfriend on December 6th. I dropped out of school and moved 400 km away. I am still not over it and I am still thinking of her everyday. My life started sucking on Dec. 6th and still sucks. And I never cried about this, which concerns me.

[Krusty]

Originally Posted by MindFad

EVERYTHING. Caps because it means I'm serious.

Dam, 'Fad. You wanna be more specific ? I haven't seen much of you around here lately. Something really big going on ??

Back on topic. The main b!tch I have right now is the complete LACK of life outside work. No hanging out, no fun, no travel. Its dead of summer and I'm still very pale. The paleness isn't the issue as much as the fact that it indicates that I'm NOT doing the things I enjoy doing at all. I need a trip, I need sweat, I need to dig my feet in dirt, I need to float in the ocean, I need to get laid, I need to get on a boat, I need to get my butt out of the office, I need something substantial to do other than post on these forums after getting home from work at 7 or 8 or 9 o'clock every night. I moved "downtown" last year after living 8 years on the beach ... I need some nature, to see some stars, to be too hot, to run my hands through ocean water and watch the phosphorescence, and I want to be able to do these things whenever the thought crosses my mind. Obviously.... I need to move back to the beach when this lease expires.

Other than that things are fine

[Randman]

Everyone has problems, some worse than others. Personally, I don't see the point of listing what's wrong with my life. Now, if someone wants to post what's right with my life, I'll offer something.

[Captain Obvious]

I work a ton of hours which encroaches on my free time. But I am compensated for it with a salary my employers deem more than adequate although if you averaged out what I make per hour I spend in the firm it doesn’t seem as great.
I live 3 blocks from the beach but I haven’t been there once this summer.
I have school loans I have to pay back.
They increased parking to $285 per month starting in Oct.
I really want to go to Cancun again and goof off and my best friend is in Miami this weekend doing what I wish I was doing.
I can’t get wasted on Monday during the Sox tailgate because I have to be up super early on Tuesday.
I didn’t get a chance to go the Western Open.
I don’t own, I still rent.
The girl I probably should end up married to wants to move to my city to make ago of “The” relationship but given she is a jewelry designer she would fair far better in NYC than in Chicago and I am hesitant to encourage the move. Plus I am not ready to settle down. There’s far too much tail to chase in this city for me to end up engaged before the age of 30.
She also wants blonde babies but given my genetics and rules of which genes are dominant she would be SOL. She also can’t be on The Pill because it causes some sort of circulation problem and if I am going to be in a committed relationship I really frown on having to use condoms.

AND.......Its going to be in the friggin 90s all week next week with an annoyingly high rate of humidity.

[Rob van dam]

What's wrong with my life-lets see where do we begin

* im worried about my fathers health as he was in hospital with diabetes problems i cant stop worrying and crying every know and then.
*I have a fear of dying
*I lack a significant other and i to would like a companion
*I wish i was in better health
* i seem to be going no where in life
* keep thinking about getting frozen when i die
*i wish i was more goal orientated

[d.fine]

• Have no job at the moment, and none in sight
• Sleep issues (just sees to it that I need 1+ hour to fall asleep)
• Temporary small financial shortcomings (due to nr. 1)
• Easily irritated lately (don't aske my why)

Other than that I'm prety happy with what I have accomplished in my life so far, and like where it is going. Have no problems with my self, or my physical self. I'm fairly happy, I have all I want and too much more. But what I really want I don't and can't have. We just keep on living...

[Hugi]

The IRS just bankrupted my company by mistake.

[zizban]

Let's see...

My sleep apnea screws up my life.

It takes me 1+ hour to get to sleep at night, probably because all the caffeine I drink.

I am secretly applying to seminary school, to become a roman catholic priest while I live with my girlfriend oif seven years.

I have no job.

I have no money.

[Warung]

Okay, let's begin:

• I have about eleventybillion € of debt which I've been wanting to pay back since the mid 90s.
• I had to make up my mind between two girls I really really liked...now I lost them both (and they have new "boyfriends")
• I'm trying to find a steady job (get away from freelancing) again, but it's taking too damn long and employers are really slow to answer applications!
• I want to move, but I'm going to wait and see how the whole "job" thing works out.
• Everybody around me is becoming a lameass, sit-around-the-house and doing the "marriage thing" puss...and I don't even really feel like dating.
• I really need to take a bunch of courses (maybe get a masters degree) to score a job that will cover the bills...but, what can I say...I need a better job to afford school...oh, wait...my head just exploded.

Other than that my life is pretty damn cool.

[BlueSky]

There is no "Boobies" category at Fark.com today.

[Kevin]

My pants never fit. Esp in the crotch area.

[budster101]

What? No boobies category? (As I gloss over Warung's sad post, which represents more my life as well except for the two girlfriends <loser, kidding> and I'm married....have the masters...and am still stuck doing freelance, when I can.

[Railroader]

Our house is taking too long to sell. But more and more houses are coming onto the market for us to choose from so it's slightly beneficial.

Work is sometimes forcing me to work overtime.

My boss is 23 years old and knows absolutely nothing about my job. But I am training him.

I don't have enough time.

My commute bothers me sometimes.

Our baby (a boy) is due in Sept, and we haven't decided on a name.


Nothing major really. Nothing I worry about.

[Kevin]

Name it Rob.

[Railroader]

Originally Posted by Kevin

Name it Rob.

As ironic as that would be I already have a few Robs in my life:
Brother
Uncle
Father-in-law
Brother-in-law

[scaught]

im fscking doomed

[TheMosco]

Here we go:

-I have no time to do anything because of work. I am gone from 6am to 7pm monday through friday. I am usually too tired to do anything until the weekend.
-I spent too much money of stuff when I should be saving it
-My best friend became a pot head, although I don't mind smoking, he only does it because he is depressed.
-I am fighting with the first girl that was ever more than a crush for me. We almost went out couple years ago but didn't. She started going out with this guy and we stayed best friends. We got really close. Then this year she got really jealous about me and girls at college so all the emotions came to light. She came to visit me twice even though she had a bf and we hooked up. I realized that it wasn't going to work so I moved on as much as I could, but she hasn't. She thinks I don't care about her.
-I have a gorgeous fun smart girl thats interested in me, and I don't have any interest. I have no idea what the girl I am interested in thinks.
-I get too nervous over stupid things
-I am paying for an apartment I can't even live in yet because its too far from work.

I guess nothing too bad.

[Warung]

Originally Posted by budster101

I'm married....

My condolences.

[driven]

A depressing thread. :-(

I have a friend who is VERY unhappy with his marriage. 5 years of counciling hasn't changed much. He won't leave his wife because he took a vow to take care of her, but quite honestly if she left him I think he'd feel relief.

I'm not sure what to tell him. He's just sort of resigned to flowing through life (status quo).

[jokell82]

My only real concern about life is whether or not to go back to school in the fall. I'm not that far away from graduating but I've come to think of college as a waste of time. I'm working in the industry I'd like to make a career in (Audio Engineering) and doing exactly what I'd like to be doing, just 3 or 4 years before I thought I'd be doing it (I'm working for a band running sound at their live shows). I've pretty much resigned to not going back but my parents may completely cut me off if I do (and I still rely on them a little).

I'm much better off than I was 6 months ago, though. I had terrible depression that led to insomnia - not fun at all.

[budster101]

Originally Posted by Warung

My condolences.

I knew you'd latch on to that... See! You don't have it that bad. So, go out and hook up with some more chicks that are hotter than the one's YOU dumped.



You'll be a bum, but at least you have some.

[OwlBoy]

I have had horrible stomache discomfort (much like an ulcer or acid reflux) for about a year, and I feel like utter crap after eating just about anything, or when I get stressed. The doctor is still trying to diagnose my problem.

Same here man, I get it under stress and worried.

I have a lot of the same issues you do, on top of it, I am jobless at the moment.

And these are about how my post would go in this thread:

http://owlboy.com/blog/?p=27
http://owlboy.com/blog/?p=53
http://owlboy.com/blog/?p=57

I have found talking to people frankly about my problems helps some times. Even if you feel stupid or whiney in doing so. Having a blog that my friends read is helping me too.


-Owl

[zerostar]

A lady ran her car in to my house today, completely destroying the air handler. It is getting around 85 degree's inside the house and it is the dead heat of summer in South Florida. (92 outside now)

Hope I can get this fixed by tomorrow's mid-day heat, but I know it is the 4th tomorrow.

Other that that...

[driven]

Originally Posted by zerostar

A lady ran her car in to my house today, completely destroying the air handler. It is getting around 85 degree's inside the house and it is the dead heat of summer in South Florida. (92 outside now)

Hope I can get this fixed by tomorrow's mid-day heat, but I know it is the 4th tomorrow.

Other that that...

I'm happy that nobody got hurt.

[budster101]

Go live in a hotel room until it is fixed. A very NICE hotel room. Charge her insurance company.

[zerostar]

Thats what we were thinking

[budster101]

Order room service. A lot. Sit by the pool and enjoy a few days. Why should you suffer for what this person did by crashing into your home?

Was she drunk?

[wdlove]

Originally Posted by zerostar

A lady ran her car in to my house today, completely destroying the air handler. It is getting around 85 degree's inside the house and it is the dead heat of summer in South Florida. (92 outside now)

Hope I can get this fixed by tomorrow's mid-day heat, but I know it is the 4th tomorrow.

Other that that...

I'm very sorry to hear about, but accidents do happen. I think that you are the winner in this thread. Agree with the others, going to a hotel would be a good idea.

In my case nothing really wrong in my life that really matters in the end. Just looking forward Fall, don't like the heat and humidity.

[invisibleX]

Originally Posted by wdlove

I'm very sorry to hear about, but accidents do happen. I think that you are the winner in this thread. Agree with the others, going to a hotel would be a good idea.

In my case nothing really wrong in my life that really matters in the end. Just looking forward Fall, don't like the heat and humidity.

Well you're just not going to make anyone feel better about their lives today, are you?

[ort888]

Sure, I've got problems, who doesn't. But my life is great. My problems are so trivial compared to most people around the world and compared to people who lived before me that if I started bitching about them I would feel guilty. I feel truly blessed to be born in the era I was with a great family, great friends and the opportunity to live my life in comfort. I am relatively young and have a great woman who loves me as much as I love her.

[nredman]

sometimes i dislike my job, other then that everything is fine with me. i have a job, roof over my head, food to eat, and a wife & family that loves me. so i'm good.

[demograph68]

i'm horny right now lol

[jamil5454]

- I eat when I'm bored. Which is often.

- It seems no matter how hard I try, I can't get myself motivated to be very good at one thing. Instead, I'm just good at everything I try.

- I tend to procrastinate horribly, to the point where it's affecting my future.

- I haven't been exercising like I should, but thankfully my body is naturally well-built. I've never been "fat" nor have I ever looked "out of shape." I feel like crap when I try to run over 3 miles though.

- I waste a lot of time doing nothing on my computer. I tell myself that I'll try and learn some Cocoa or get to know XCode a little better, but once I sit down and start reading a tutorial, I end up closing it and heading to MacNN.

- I have a small penis.

[OpenStep]

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[jamil5454]

Just kidding about the last one.

[Ghoser777]

Originally Posted by jamil5454

- I have a small penis.

Dude, I'm sorry.