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iDriveX · Sep 7, 2005, 12:46 AM

So i have this girl I really like but she lives kinda far away and we broke up but now things are slowly starting to come together. We don't get to see each other much, but I love her. What should I do?

Warung · Sep 7, 2005, 12:49 AM

Sorry, but I think you'll get a lot of option 3s on this one.

(Yes, I also chose 3)

budster101 · Sep 7, 2005, 12:54 AM

Looks like a mandate. This thread sucks without pictures.

Like the sig.

PB2K · Sep 7, 2005, 01:20 AM

dont worry, i was drunk too

alphasubzero949 · Sep 7, 2005, 01:33 AM

I think I can speak for the others when I say that we need pics to judge the severity of the situation.

Goldfinger · Sep 7, 2005, 01:46 AM

We need a thorough forensic analysis of the pictures taken at the scene, yes.

badidea · Sep 7, 2005, 01:48 AM

Originally Posted by iDriveX

...but I love her.

^ There is your answer, Mister!
Date her or tell me a reason why you shouldn't date the woman you love!?!

(but show me her titties first)

MM-o4 · Sep 7, 2005, 01:52 AM

if you love her it shouldn't be a problem. So easy to say I know when it's not your self.
Is there any other interest for you closer?

MM

PS
I picked 3 also

Who doesn't like T!ts?

nredman · 03:35 AM

JoshuaZ · Sep 7, 2005, 03:41 AM

I say number 3, but if you're posting on this forum you should probably take anything you can get right now.

Jens Peter · Sep 7, 2005, 04:35 AM

Originally Posted by iDriveX

...but I love her.

When you wrote that line, you should now what to do - no reason to ask strangers at a internet messageboard...

But since you did, and you listed option #3 (And I voted for that

) , I think you need to post some pictures..

Millennium · Sep 7, 2005, 05:19 AM

I would be wary, given that you've already broken up once, but you should do what you feel is right. Long-distance relationships seldom work out well, but they're not impossible; I should know

OreoCookie · Sep 7, 2005, 05:30 AM

Long-distance relationships are more difficult, but you should follow your heart and never loose sight of what you want. Expect to go through a different kind of hell. Expect to enjoy very rewarding moments with her. Don't care what people say or think. Especially those on some obscure internet message boards.

It can work out. (I'm a long-distance relationship veteran, 3.5 out of 4.5 years plus 1.5 out of 1.5 years (minus six weeks, mind you

). Looks like I could be lucky this time

Doofy · Sep 7, 2005, 06:33 AM

Originally Posted by iDriveX

So i have this girl I really like but she lives kinda far away and we broke up but now things are slowly starting to come together. We don't get to see each other much, but I love her. What should I do?

Wait and see what happens. Don't force it. Don't expect too much.
And show us her boobies.

rickey939 · Sep 7, 2005, 07:08 AM

If you feel the need to ask the 'NN Lounge if you should date a particular girl...that obviously means the answer is without question...NO!

Weyland-Yutani · Sep 7, 2005, 07:11 AM

Originally Posted by rickey939

If you feel the need to ask the 'NN Lounge if you should date a particular girl...that obviously means the answer is without question...NO!

I fear the Go dude is right.

How about doing what you want. Was there ever any other way?

cheers

W-Y

TETENAL · Sep 7, 2005, 07:12 AM

Originally Posted by iDriveX

So i have this girl I really like but she lives kinda far away and we broke up but now things are slowly starting to come together. We don't get to see each other much, but I love her. What should I do?

If you got the chance to shag her you should drive there now and then. But loving her sounds like a bad idea in this situation.

sworthy · Sep 7, 2005, 07:30 AM

I'm never for getting back together... what makes you think it will be anything different this time?

jasonsRX7 · Sep 7, 2005, 07:39 AM

How far is far? I date a girl that lives 65 miles away, and the distance isn't a deal breaker.

MacNStein · Sep 7, 2005, 08:37 AM

pics?

zerostar · Sep 7, 2005, 08:46 AM

Originally Posted by MacNStein

pics?

This thread is useless without pics

turtle777 · Sep 7, 2005, 08:54 AM

^^^ Seconded

-t

dillerX · Sep 7, 2005, 08:57 AM

nerd · Sep 7, 2005, 09:29 AM

I voted for pictures but seriously if you love her then try it again and see what happens. Otherwise you always wonder.

Brad

wdlove · Sep 7, 2005, 10:04 AM

I voted for date her.

If you you are in love there is no reason to miss out have relationship with a nice young lady.

TubaMuffins · Sep 7, 2005, 10:56 AM

if you want to date her, why are you even questioning it? Nike was right, just do it.

JHromadka · Sep 7, 2005, 11:14 AM

Originally Posted by rickey939

If you feel the need to ask the 'NN Lounge if you should date a particular girl...that obviously means the answer is without question...NO!

I'm sure the UNIX forum would have said YES.

iDriveX · Sep 7, 2005, 11:32 AM

We're going to take it slow and see what happens, no need to rush anything if it's not meant to be, it won't. She talked about moving closer. We'll see.

Millennium · Sep 7, 2005, 11:42 AM

Originally Posted by iDriveX

We're going to take it slow and see what happens, no need to rush anything if it's not meant to be, it won't. She talked about moving closer. We'll see.

I hope this means you're not getting serious about the relationship. I don't mean that to say 'I don't think it will work out'; I really do mean 'I hope the two of you aren't getting serious'. Casual relationships can work very well long-distance with little forethought, as long as everyone is aware of and comfortable with the fact that it's casual.

Serious relationships, however, take a lot more forethought and planning. You need to know where the relationship is, where you see it going, and what if any boundaries there are or should be. Without these, sooner or later someone will do something the other wasn't prepared for, probably without even realizing it, and then things get really nasty. You don't want to go there. However, it sounds like you're keeping things more or less casual for now, so this shouldn't be an issue.

OreoCookie · Sep 7, 2005, 11:59 AM

Originally Posted by Millennium

I hope this means you're not getting serious about the relationship. I don't mean that to say 'I don't think it will work out'; I really do mean 'I hope the two of you aren't getting serious'. Casual relationships can work very well long-distance with little forethought, as long as everyone is aware of and comfortable with the fact that it's casual.

Serious relationships, however, take a lot more forethought and planning. You need to know where the relationship is, where you see it going, and what if any boundaries there are or should be. Without these, sooner or later someone will do something the other wasn't prepared for, probably without even realizing it, and then things get really nasty. You don't want to go there. However, it sounds like you're keeping things more or less casual for now, so this shouldn't be an issue.

I disagree. You can and should try it even if you have little time to prepare. It's a big risk you have to be willing to take. I would not try to plan anything, but see where things are going.

jcadam · Sep 7, 2005, 12:06 PM

A real man would post pics of his woman. I should know.

Besides, how else can we give you an answer to your question?

JHromadka · Sep 7, 2005, 01:09 PM

Originally Posted by jcadam

A real man would post pics of his woman. I should know.

And where are pics of your woman?

meelk · Sep 7, 2005, 01:54 PM

Originally Posted by iDriveX

So i have this girl I really like but she lives kinda far away and we broke up but now things are slowly starting to come together. We don't get to see each other much, but I love her. What should I do?

shouldnt you post this on shacknews or livejournal where the other EMOs might actually care?

RAILhead · Sep 7, 2005, 02:46 PM

Originally Posted by meelk

shouldnt you post this on shacknews or livejournal where the other EMOs might actually care?

You better watch out or the MacNN Gestapo will chide you, saying you aren't being "compassionate" enough...

scaught · Sep 7, 2005, 02:55 PM

Originally Posted by jcadam

A real man would post pics of his woman. I should know.

haha.

mojo2 · 11:06 PM

I had a friend who was seeing someone he really liked and he was talking about marrying.

I talked to him about her and I found out she was slightly mentally retarded and she had a job and stuff, so I found out where she worked and told her employer that my friend was taking advantage of her. There were laws against hospital workers taking advantage of retarded patients and this guy might have been breaking the law. So, to protect him from himself and to protect her and to protect myself, in case the law found out after the fact, that I KNEW about him but did/said nothing, I even alerted the authorities.

When my friend found out he was royally PISSED!

He said I was butting into his happiness. He said it was up to THEM to determine what was right or not in this situation.

He asked if I'd ever given him reason to suspect he was a jerk or law breaker or reprobate and the truth is I thought he was a decent enough guy. Bright and kind and patient and funny and talented but certainly NOT perfect. Anyway, it turns out he had a good understanding of his legal rights as well as the emotional difficulties he was walking into by marrying a retarded woman. She wasn't severely retarded, just borderline. (Like some MacNN posters! lolol jk)

He wanted someone who needed him and challenged him in that way. She respected him but she could tell when he was working too hard and would tell him to relax and he would smile and follow her advice. He said he wasn't at all in the MASTER position in the relationship. And that she was as assertive in making him do stuff as any other woman. I don't know. I just couldn't see it.

They vowed not to have sex until their wedding night and they talked for hours not just about their future together but stupid stuff like shiny cat figurines she was fascinated by and how he wasn't going to marry the neighborhood "Cat Lady."

Well, after I spread the word to all involved she found out my involvement and she accused he and I of being in love and having a homosexual relationship. Which is not true although I did love him as a brother. They got into major fights and I was hoping that when the dust settled that he would be through with her and he and I would get back to bein buds.

Well, it still hasn't happened. I haven't heard from him, though I sometimes see him at the club where we used to go to hang out. I never see him with anyone and he often looks kinda sad. They would have been married by now but I'm pretty sure that didn't happen.

Nobody at the club really knows the story even though I've quietly told some people who agree with me he was better off without her and she was better off with someone who was more her intellectual equal.

I mean things would have been very tough for them and it probably wouldn't have worked out. So it's for the best that they broke up. And if I was the cause, well, I'm sorry but I was only looking out for everyone's best interests.

But after a year and he's still pouting like a big baby, maybe if it were to happen again I'd advise him next time, and in this case I'd advise you, go for it.

Even though it might have been a stupid notion, how many times do we get a chance at love?

So many times that we can just turn up our noses at it and not see where it leads?

I messed up, I guess.

If you can afford the relationship, see where it leads.

turtle777 · Sep 7, 2005, 04:03 PM

Originally Posted by mojo2

Fixinated.

-t

iDriveX · Sep 7, 2005, 04:37 PM

Originally Posted by Millennium

I hope this means you're not getting serious about the relationship. I don't mean that to say 'I don't think it will work out'; I really do mean 'I hope the two of you aren't getting serious'. Casual relationships can work very well long-distance with little forethought, as long as everyone is aware of and comfortable with the fact that it's casual.

Serious relationships, however, take a lot more forethought and planning. You need to know where the relationship is, where you see it going, and what if any boundaries there are or should be. Without these, sooner or later someone will do something the other wasn't prepared for, probably without even realizing it, and then things get really nasty. You don't want to go there. However, it sounds like you're keeping things more or less casual for now, so this shouldn't be an issue.

I'm in agreement here actually. We are not going to get serious or anything and just have a casual relationship and see each other when we can. With gas prices being as insane as they are right now, that coupled with LA traffic could put tremendous pressure on the relationship and actually end it. So that's that for now. She's a great girl, I love her, and do want to be with her. But I suppose the old addage could be true, if it's meant to be, then eventually one of us will do something about it.

mojo2 · Sep 7, 2005, 10:26 PM

Originally Posted by turtle777

Fixinated.

-t

AT LEAST when I play with "Mr, Whopper" it doesn't involve drawing eyes and putting fake beaver teefes (teeth) on him. Oh, and it takes TWO HANDS TO HANDLE A WHOPPER.

mozak · Sep 7, 2005, 10:48 PM

yup .

jcadam · Sep 7, 2005, 11:08 PM

Originally Posted by JHromadka

And where are pics of your woman?

A bit of an inside joke for the old OMGWTFBBQ! crowd.

bstone · Sep 8, 2005, 01:45 AM

von Wrangell · Sep 8, 2005, 06:06 AM

Bah! No pics yet!? How are we supposed to be able to tell you the answer if there are no pics?

Bah!