[macintologist]

I'm not asking how you have sex with parter, but rather, how you literally sleep with him/her.

Do you just sleep on your own parts of the bed and keep to yourself? Do you sleep next to other facing each other, both facing one way? Is she resting her head on your chest? What do you with that arm that always gets in the way?

I'd love to hear from both newly weds and old couples

[Rev-O]

Originally Posted by macintologist

I'm not asking how you have sex with parter, but rather, how you literally sleep with him/her.

Do you just sleep on your own parts of the bed and keep to yourself? Do you sleep next to other facing each other, both facing one way? Is she resting her head on your chest? What do you with that arm that always gets in the way?

I'd love to hear from both newly weds and old couples

Creepy.

[macintologist]

Originally Posted by Rev-O

Creepy.

I'm wondering because me and my girlfriend have started sleeping with each other occasionally and we spend about 20 minutes trying to find the most comfortable position, it's hard. I like to sleep on my side and she likes to sleep on her stomach, so it's hard to not end up being in an awkward position.

[wallinbl]

We each have our side of the bed. I toss and turn a lot, so she really doesn't want to be nearby.

[Ghoser777]

Well we sleep... oh no you don't, you and your damn loaded questions!

[Kerrigan]

I sleep with my partner anally

[Rev-O]

Originally Posted by macintologist

I'm wondering because me and my girlfriend have started sleeping with each other occasionally and we spend about 20 minutes trying to find the most comfortable position, it's hard. I like to sleep on my side and she likes to sleep on her stomach, so it's hard to not end up being in an awkward position.

Rules: The female will always be comfortable. The male will always be uncomfortable. The comfort level of the male is inversely related to the comfort level of the female, as in the more comfortable the female becomes, the less comfortable the male becomes.

Not universally true, 'natch, but pretty damn close! And if you are starting to have sleep overs... who cares about comfort!

[macintologist]

Originally Posted by wallinbl

We each have our side of the bed. I toss and turn a lot, so she really doesn't want to be nearby.

That's nice. We're forced to share the space on a single mattress, the kind you see in college dorms

[paul w]

At first we spooned. The spooning thing faded after a few months, because I'd have to reclaim my dead cold arm.

These days we sleep back to back, with her foot over my ankle.

[- - e r i k - -]

After almost four years we still spoon sometimes. The rest of the night we spend on separate sides of the beds especially now during summer.

[Salty]

I have a partner now?

[Captain Obvious]

Originally Posted by macintologist

share the space on a single mattress, the kind you see in college dorms

Well, that's just silly. Those were hard enough to sleep in when it is just one person.
If you are going to make this a regular thing buy a flip-n-f*ck or one of these www.thinkaero.com

Otherwise if its your room kick her back to hers after you're done or ask her to sleep on the floor
You may be all concerned with her comfort now but give it a couple months and that concern will pass.

[dcmacdaddy]

Originally Posted by Salty

I have a partner now?

I don't know, do you?

Generall the only people who would bother responding to a thread like this are those who actually have a partner.

So, are you romantically involved with someone to the extent that you sleep in the same bed with s/he? If so, tell us how you share the bed and each other's space.

Me, I am currently single. But when I was married there was spooning, snuggling, side-by-side, and sometimes separate places--I have a bad habit of falling asleep on the couch--based on our moods, the time of the month, the time of the year, and which one of us had the worst gas.

[BRussell]

Once you get married like me you'll get a triple duplex emperor-sized bed and you'll never even see your spouse during the night, even if you try to look.

[TheoCryst]

Ugh, college beds suck. My college dorm had one of those extra-long twin beds, that are about four feet off the ground and about two feet wide. Tough to sleep with a girl (whether there is actual sleeping involved or otherwise... )

Anyway, my girlfriend and I find that we are both extremely comfortable in the following position:

1. I lay on my back, one arm out spread-eagle-style
2. She lies on her stomach on that side, with her head either on my chest, shoulder, or on a pillow
3. I wrap my spread arm around her, she puts an arm around my stomach
4. Cross legs however is comfortable for you.

This way, there is minimal arm-sleepage, you are very close to each other, and happy abounds. Plus it works on very small beds or even some couches!

[ShortcutToMoncton]

Originally Posted by BRussell

Once you get married like me you'll get a triple duplex emperor-sized bed and you'll never even see your spouse during the night, even if you try to look.

[Spook E]

Originally Posted by BRussell

Once you get married like me you'll get a triple duplex emperor-sized bed and you'll never even see your spouse during the night, even if you try to look.

that is a killer idea! i like to sleep deep and undisturbed through the night and nearly always do, but if the missus is there its just not right and i can never get a good sleep

[MacPoker101]

We sleep in a small, narrow couch in the living room; we have a nice bed room, but no TV and no stereo there. The position is unique too: head faces foot.

[El Gato]

Originally Posted by TheoCryst

1. I lay on my back, one arm out spread-eagle-style
2. She lies on her stomach on that side, with her head either on my chest, shoulder, or on a pillow
3. I wrap my spread arm around her, she puts an arm around my stomach
4. Cross legs however is comfortable for you.

I like to sleep on my back, so this is the most comfortable for me.


Otherwise I'm farting and stealing the covers and she's kicking me and mumbling some **** about "what smells?"

[wallinbl]

Originally Posted by BRussell

Once you get married like me you'll get a triple duplex emperor-sized bed and you'll never even see your spouse during the night, even if you try to look.

Wife wants one, but i keep resisting. Seems ridiculous to spend $2K on a mattress when we already have one. She seems to think a double is too small. We both fit, so what's the big deal?

[11011001]

Our breath starts to stink after a while, so we usually end up back to back. If you want to hold her, try lying on your side, then, put a pillow on your arm. She will not be at the same head level as you. Have her her sleep on that pillow. This also avoids the breath issue, as she's breathing onto your neck, and you are breathing over her head, furthermore I find it avoids the dead arm (which personally I love.. it's like an extra arm, and it's fun to try and will it to move, or flail it around.. I just worry if the blood loss is bad for it).

[ShotgunEd]

alternating between face to face and spooning before giving up and going back to back to get some actual sleep. If i wake up I'll spoon for a while, but inevitable go for back to back after a few minutes.

[residentEvil]

We have our own beds and our own bedrooms...that way it was meant to be When it comes time to ****, we do then retreat to our own rooms.

[ism]

Originally Posted by residentEvil

We have our own beds and our own bedrooms...that way it was meant to be When it comes time to ****, we do then retreat to our own rooms.

I wish we had enough rooms to do this. I've never slept as badly as I do with my wife. I'd prefer to sleep on the sofa every night, but I'm quite sure she'd get in a mood about this.

[residentEvil]

Originally Posted by ism

I wish we had enough rooms to do this. I've never slept as badly as I do with my wife. I'd prefer to sleep on the sofa every night, but I'm quite sure she'd get in a mood about this.

I'm a very light sleeper, toss and turn, and stay up late. She snores BAD and goes to bed early. Just makes more sense and we both sleep how we want and none of that too hot, too cold, stop touching me, you stink, stop snoring, kicking, etc

[Dork.]

Those College Dorm beds do, in fact, suck. They're not big enough for one person, much less two. And later in life, when my wife and I finally got one of those beds the size of Montana, I noticed I was very uncomfortable, because in college I had become used to sleeping with my feet off the edge of the bed, and I had kept that habit through all the smaller beds we've had since then. (I'm >6ft.) It took me a while to get used to not doing that!

[Oisín]

Back to back, or otherwise disentangled. I toss and turn constantly (and rather flailingly), so anything even slightly entangled is downright dangerous for the poor guy.

[TurboMac]

The king bed was the best thing my wife and I bought. We have a medely of sleeping positions and our dogs sleep on the bed as well(Boxer and minipin). So that is 4 bodies to contend with. I couldn't imagine going back to a queen or "Gasp" a twin! But yeah by the time morning comes we are back to back. Who wants to smell funky morning breath.

I have been told that sex in the morning makes babies. Man, I guess I'm not having kids becasue who could get turned on w/ Funkybreath®

[OwlBoy]

Originally Posted by Ghoser777

Well we sleep... oh no you don't, you and your damn loaded questions!

I made your sig.

[ghporter]

My wife and I have a large bed-a king-size waterbed-because I'm tall and when we got married I told her I'd like to have a bed that I fit on...the standard size for a king-size waterbed is 6'X7'.

Now we have been sleeping in this same bed for over a quarter of a century, and we generally fall asleep snuggled together. After that, we sort of migrate in a way that keeps us from thrashing each other. I curl up in one direction and she curls up in the other, and we wind up snuggled up back-to-back.

The only "the woman must be comfortable" issue we have is that sometimes one of us gets warmer or cooler than the other, so that person changes the covers. But it's only a minor problem, because with this big a bed, we can move a little bit apart and adjust the covers independently.

In a few situations we've had to share a twin bed, and that turned out to be both very romantic and rather impractical. It's romantic when you're falling asleep, but not practical when one minor movement gets your butt stuck out from under the covers.

[wdlove]

We sleep in separate sides of our King size bed. Our dogs sleep with us also.

[ort888]

I sleep on a large pile of young nubile women who have all passed out from exhaustion and the overwhelming power of my sexual prowess.

[Mastrap]

Originally Posted by ort888

I am a single geek with an overactive imagination.

[Oisín]

Originally Posted by ort888

I sleep on a large pile of young nubile women who have all passed out from exhaustion and the overwhelming power of my sexual prowess.

That sounds very bumpy and uncomfortable. I prefer a simple mattress.

[OSX Abuser]

My Wife stole MY side of the bed after we were married.
Side by side, but she has my side of the bed.

[davesimondotcom]

My wife and I are both insomniacs. So we don't sleep much. But when we're in bed, we've got a king and we sleep on opposite sides, she likes tons of covers, I like very few.

[CMYKid]

Originally Posted by ort888

I sleep on a large pile of young nubile women who have all passed out from exhaustion and the overwhelming power of my sexual prowess.

THAT'S a relief. For a while I was thinking I was the only one.

[CMYKid]

Originally Posted by ort888

I sleep on a large pile of young nubile women who have all passed out from exhaustion and the overwhelming power of my sexual prowess.

THAT'S a relief. For a while I was thinking I was the only one.

[scaught]

Originally Posted by BRussell

Once you get married like me you'll get a triple duplex emperor-sized bed and you'll never even see your spouse during the night, even if you try to look.

go queen sized, at least.

gentlemen on the hunt for a lady: get at least a queen sized bed. a NICE one that is very comfortable. spend some dough (1500-2000) on it. and some nice sheets. its like liquid panty remover.

[Millennium]

Um... I hope your sheets aren't liquid...

Another vote for queen size, by the way. Oh, and as for the arm that gets in the way: put it under both her head and the pillow her head is on. Making this work will alleviate a bunch of other potential issues in the process. Note all of the stuff that ghporter said as well; the bit about starting out in one position and then shifting in your sleep holds true for many if not most couples. It takes getting used to.

[MacNStein]

Originally Posted by macintologist

I'm not asking how you have sex with parter, but rather, how you literally sleep with him/her.

Do you just sleep on your own parts of the bed and keep to yourself? Do you sleep next to other facing each other, both facing one way? Is she resting her head on your chest? What do you with that arm that always gets in the way?

I'd love to hear from both newly weds and old couples

Usually in a pile.

[wdlove]

Originally Posted by scaught

go queen sized, at least.

gentlemen on the hunt for a lady: get at least a queen sized bed. a NICE one that is very comfortable. spend some dough (1500-2000) on it. and some nice sheets. its like liquid panty remover.

A King size bed is even better. Plenty of room.

[historylme]

Dam, I miss sharing my bed with a loved one. I now just have to conten with doing crazy **** on it with college girls.

[wdlove]

Originally Posted by history1me

Dam, I miss sharing my bed with a loved one. I now just have to conten with doing crazy **** on it with college girls.

College life if the time of your life history1me, enjoy.

[::maroma::]

Ah yes, college dorm beds are a great way to break in a new relationship. If you can stand sleeping with your partner in one of those beds you know you'll never have a problem with that sort of thing later on in life. Me and my girl slept in one of those beds together for a good 2 years. Back then it was get in whatever position you can possibly get in that is even remotely comfortable and hope to fall asleep fast.

These days we got a bigger bed and we usually do the spoon thing. Sometimes I'm facing her back, sometimes she's facing mine. It varies, but usually spoon.

[macintologist]

I like spoon. Intimate, practical, comfortable. It's all good

[osiris]

It's all nice to cuddle and hold each other, etc... but after a while, limbs go numb. If it were up to me, I'd have separate beds. But maybe I should try a California King, the Queen size no longer cuts it.

[nredman]

my wife and i pretty much stay on each others side of the bed - if i could fall asleep with her hanging all over me i would - but i can't