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wolfen · Jan 23, 2006, 11:47 AM

Vote on your relationship. It's anonymous...don't be a pu**y.

Dakar · Jan 23, 2006, 12:03 PM

Be a man, use dollar signs when you $wear.

wolfen · Jan 23, 2006, 12:08 PM

Originally Posted by Dakar

Be a man, use dollar signs when you $wear.

LOL. I will remember that.

wolfen · Jan 23, 2006, 12:51 PM

After 1 hour, 8 seems to have a decent lead.

leehotti · Jan 23, 2006, 12:51 PM

8. Would be higher if I didn't live with her. I'm still not sure living with your spouse is ideal. Seems to me it'd make more sense to live with your friends, and your spouse could live with hers. Then you can fly in and sweep them off their feet. But yeah, things are pretty sweet regardless.

Leia's Left Bun · Jan 23, 2006, 12:52 PM

You forgot the "Jesus comes before my wife" for wildlove.

No I am not making that one up or being sarcastic.

leehotti · Jan 23, 2006, 12:53 PM

Originally Posted by Leia's Left Bun

You forgot the "Jesus comes before my wife" for wildlove.

No I am not making that one up or being sarcastic.

Is God infappable?

wolfen · Jan 23, 2006, 01:00 PM

Originally Posted by Leia's Left Bun

You forgot the "Jesus comes before my wife" for wildlove.

No I am not making that one up or being sarcastic.

I want to believe you. It's the abuse of his nick that has me unconvinced.

turtle777 · Jan 23, 2006, 01:02 PM

Originally Posted by Leia's Left Bun

You forgot the "Jesus comes before my wife" for wildlove.
No I am not making that one up or being sarcastic.

Unnecessary.

-t

boots · 01:26 PM

Originally Posted by Leia's Left Bun

You forgot the "Jesus comes before my wife" for wildlove.

No I am not making that one up or being sarcastic.

I thought that's the relationship we were talking about.

Ok. I lied. I can't back that up.

Blissfully happy here. No complaints, and things keep getting better. Some rocky parts early on, but once those things got ironed out it's been smooth sailing.

Leia's Left Bun · 01:20 PM

Originally Posted by wolfen

I want to believe you. It's the abuse of his nick that has me unconvinced.

I think "wildlove" is a valid nick at this point even though it was a typo.
http://forums.macnn.com/showthread.p...54#post2842756

leehotti · Jan 23, 2006, 01:09 PM

Originally Posted by boots

No complaints,

Liar. Everyone has something to improve on. If not they'd be a god of some sort.

Leia's Left Bun · 01:35 PM

Originally Posted by turtle777

Unnecessary.

-t

99% of you posts are unnecessary. What I posted was in topic for the questioned ask.

Either post the same stupid graphics you always do or take a hike.

boots · Jan 23, 2006, 01:11 PM

Originally Posted by leehotti

Liar. Everyone has something to improve on. If not they'd be a god of some sort.

Believe what you want. Those here who know me will vouch for me on this one.

(BTW, who are you? I hate it when people register new names and it takes forever to relearn who it is. Maybe it's the Ca$h factor.)

leehotti · Jan 23, 2006, 01:17 PM

Originally Posted by boots

Believe what you want. Those here who know me will vouch for me on this one.

(BTW, who are you? I hate it when people register new names and it takes forever to relearn who it is. Maybe it's the Ca$h factor.)

It could be.

But seriously, you're telling me your SO has absolutely NOTHING they can improve on? Even the prununciation of certain words, or nurturing a taste for a certain kind of food, or anything? Literally perfect?

Again, I smell BS.

wdlove · Jan 23, 2006, 01:24 PM

We are both very happy. Now married over 33 years.

boots · Jan 23, 2006, 01:25 PM

Originally Posted by leehotti

It could be.

But seriously, you're telling me your SO has absolutely NOTHING they can improve on? Even the prununciation of certain words, or nurturing a taste for a certain kind of food, or anything? Literally perfect?

Again, I smell BS.

Yep. That's what I'm telling you. Maybe I just have low standards, but I wouldn't change anything.

leehotti · Jan 23, 2006, 01:27 PM

Not saying you'd change anything... but do you personally have anything you need to improve on, or are you content with all of your abilities, habits, and thoughts? IF so, then the same probably holds true for your SO.

turtle777 · Jan 23, 2006, 01:27 PM

Originally Posted by Leia's Left Bun

What I posted in in topic for the questioned ask.

You're not making any sense. Whatever.

-t

wolfen · Jan 23, 2006, 01:28 PM

Originally Posted by leehotti

It could be.

But seriously, you're telling me your SO has absolutely NOTHING they can improve on? Even the prununciation of certain words, or nurturing a taste for a certain kind of food, or anything? Literally perfect?

Again, I smell BS.

Not to interfere with your logical argument, but perhaps a little input from the poll author could be of use.

Every person can improve SOMETHING, surely. Let's say my SO refuses to cook -- but the relationship is wonderful -- so I might choose any number 7-10 depending on my particular feeling on the matter. I might think I'm kinda missing out because I always do the cooking, or I might think "Meh, who cares? We rock!" The issue isn't whether or not the person could improve something, the issue is whether or not any of the changes would be significant enough to improve the satisfaction I already receive within the relationship.

leehotti · Jan 23, 2006, 01:31 PM

Still... even minor changes like that could improve the relationship a little. I mean, they certainly wouldn't HURT anything.

boots · Jan 23, 2006, 01:32 PM

Originally Posted by leehotti

Not saying you'd change anything... but do you personally have anything you need to improve on, or are you content with all of your abilities, habits, and thoughts? IF so, then the same probably holds true for your SO.

Yes. But those aren't relationship issues. The question was about the relationship. I'm sure she has things she'd like to work on. And when she asks, I help in whatever way I can. But again, those do not impact the quality of our relationship. As far as the relationship goes, I wouldn't change a thing, am blissfully happy, and think it gets better every day.

boots · Jan 23, 2006, 01:34 PM

Originally Posted by leehotti

Still... even minor changes like that could improve the relationship a little. I mean, they certainly wouldn't HURT anything.

Maybe that's true if you don't give the person the freedom to be who they are. But if that's the case, you're always gonna be in rocky relationships.

leehotti · Jan 23, 2006, 01:36 PM

Originally Posted by boots

Maybe that's true if you don't give the person the freedom to be who they are. But if that's the case, you're always gonna be in rocky relationships.

Nah, it's not rocky. It's pretty sweet. I just wish she'd try peppers or mushrooms instead of refusing them instantly.

wolfen · Jan 23, 2006, 01:40 PM

Originally Posted by leehotti

Nah, it's not rocky. It's pretty sweet. I just wish she'd try peppers or mushrooms instead of refusing them instantly.

Is that code for "teh ana1 5ex"?

leehotti · Jan 23, 2006, 01:46 PM

Nah, it's the code for 'eating green peppers and or mushrooms'

JoshKurtz · Jan 23, 2006, 01:48 PM

My wife and I have been married just around 1 1/2 years and have successfully passed the newlywed stage. Things are cool.

boots · Jan 23, 2006, 01:49 PM

Originally Posted by leehotti

Nah, it's not rocky. It's pretty sweet. I just wish she'd try peppers or mushrooms instead of refusing them instantly.

Why? If she doesn't like them, she doesn't like them. Try to find ways to work around it. But yeah, that isn't a major relationship issue in my book.

leehotti · Jan 23, 2006, 02:04 PM

Originally Posted by boots

Why? If she doesn't like them, she doesn't like them. Try to find ways to work around it. But yeah, that isn't a major relationship issue in my book.

Thing is, she won't even try them. One type of mushroom is way different than another... heck, even the same kind can taste totally different depending on how it's prepared. And she likes green peppers some days, other days it's just a total refusal to try them. It's confusing.

boots · Jan 23, 2006, 02:11 PM

Many don't like the texture of mushrooms. And green peppers (peppers of any kind) are distinct enough in flavor that you could easily want some one day and avoid them at all costs the next. I don't see that as weird at all. It's just part of who she is.

as2 · Jan 23, 2006, 02:30 PM

Stupid cow has just moved back to her parents 3 hours and 180 miles away from me.

leehotti · Jan 23, 2006, 02:31 PM

I think it's weird. >shrug<

OH! Complaint. She hates broccoli. She can't stand even the smell of it, so I can never eat it. It sucks.

Dakar · Jan 23, 2006, 02:59 PM

Originally Posted by leehotti

I think it's weird. >shrug<

OH! Complaint. She hates broccoli. She can't stand even the smell of it, so I can never eat it. It sucks.

There's a lady I know
If I didn't know her
She'd be the lady I didn't know.

And my lady, she went downtown
She bought some broccoli
She brought it home.

She's chopping broccoli
Chopping broccoli
Chopping broccoli
Chopping broccoli

She's chopping broccoli
She's chopping broccoli
She's chop.. ooh!
She's chopping broccola-ah-ie!

Kevin · Jan 23, 2006, 03:08 PM

Originally Posted by Leia's Left Bun

You forgot the "Jesus comes before my wife" for wildlove.

No I am not making that one up or being sarcastic.

Not making it up or being sarcastic. Just being your usual asshole self.

Leia's Left Bun · Jan 23, 2006, 03:12 PM

Big surprise, there are a lot of single people here

xi_hyperon · Jan 23, 2006, 03:20 PM

7 years of marriage so far, and we're both quite happy. I'm lucky to have found someone who likes my quirkiness.

Chuckit · Jan 23, 2006, 03:23 PM

Originally Posted by Dakar

Be a man, use dollar signs when you $wear.

Real men don't need no punctuation marks when they swear.

Dakar · Jan 23, 2006, 03:32 PM

Actually I was thinking pu∑∑y would have been amusing alternative.

leehotti · Jan 23, 2006, 03:36 PM

Originally Posted by Kevin

Just being your usual asshole self.

OSX Abuser · Jan 23, 2006, 04:16 PM

Options 8 and 9 should, could be grouped together.
I voted #8, but could of voted #9

wolfen · Jan 23, 2006, 05:02 PM

Originally Posted by OSX Abuser

Options 8 and 9 should, could be grouped together.
I voted #8, but could of voted #9

Yes, it's a subtle difference.

7 means "There are 1 or more things that bug me on a regular basis, but I can live with them. We can be happy despite them. Maybe someday they'll even resolve." But they are on your mind and you would say they frequently detract from your appreciation of the relationship.

8 essentially means "I'm aware of minor issues, but they do not affect me much." Maybe he/she doesn't like the same friends, or maybe you don't have a lot of recreational things in common, OR WHATEVER, and these things bug you once in a while. But their impact is minor, and you don't think about them much.

9 means "There aren't any issues" with an implied "I could imagine something better, but this is pretty frickin' cool." Her low pay, or introversion, or inability to cook exist but you simply don't care. You probably don't even think of them as issues or problems. You can imagine those things gone and life being a little better, but all in all you're damn happy as it is.

10 means you simply have no issues, minor or otherwise AND don't think there's a relationship (realistically) that could be more satisfying than the one you're in now. Not only is she unemployed and can't cook -- they are part of what you love about him/her. You appreciate your SO so much that these things are just endearing qualities not flaws or detractions. Your relationship is sublime. Nobody is perfect, no relationship is perfect, but you don't think it could be much better.

I don't think any rating is final, either. They can go back and forth across the scale over time. Where you are now and where you will be can be very different, of course. But somtimes we are gifted with someone who is willing to take the journey with us, good and bad, and we can eventually reach "10."

NOTE: There is a philosophical issue involved in responding to the question that has come up in the thread. A relationship is a dynamic thing, changing over time. At some point, hopefully, you go from hoping things will change to enjoying changing together. It becomes less about overcoming something or trying to get the other person to change. It becomes more about accepting and appreciating the person you've got, and being willing to grow with them in a non-judgmental (or less self gratifying) manner.

Sometimes we're not paired with someone who is willing to make that conversion with us. Sometimes, our different paces of that process create even more problems. And sometimes we simply learn that we are too incompatible to ever make it work. But much of the times we simply need to work at it.

Kevin · Jan 23, 2006, 05:03 PM

Oh everyone has SOME complaints. I am sure. None worth breaking apart over.

wolfen · Jan 23, 2006, 05:10 PM

Originally Posted by Kevin

Oh everyone has SOME complaints. I am sure. None worth breaking apart over.

You have none worth breaking up over? Or are you saying there ARE no problems worth breaking up over?

rparke1 · Jan 23, 2006, 05:11 PM

heres a qoute from Bill Cosby "Never NEVER tell them (females) that you forgot. NEVER!"

nredman · Jan 23, 2006, 07:21 PM

Originally Posted by wolfen

You have none worth breaking up over? Or are you saying there ARE no problems worth breaking up over?

getting cheated on would do it for me

wolfen · Jan 23, 2006, 09:16 PM

One last bump before bed.

Oh, and Smashing Pumpkins still rock.

Doofy · Jan 23, 2006, 10:05 PM

Originally Posted by Dakar

Be a man, use dollar signs when you $wear.

Wait. "Pu$$y" is swearing?

d4nth3m4n · Jan 23, 2006, 10:24 PM

we fight, we yell, we huff and storm off, and then regroup and have the best sex imaginable.

i love college.

Railroader · Jan 23, 2006, 11:59 PM

Originally Posted by Leia's Left Bun

You forgot the "Jesus comes before my wife" for wildlove.

No I am not making that one up or being sarcastic.

My wife and I are the same way. I love God more than my wife. She feels the same way.

So far we have been very happily married 8 1/2 years.

I have no complaints!

I am not surprised you don't understand.

I can't understand your attraction to men.

boots · Jan 24, 2006, 09:45 AM

Originally Posted by Railroader

My wife and I are the same way. I love God more than my wife. She feels the same way.

So far we have been very happily married 8 1/2 years.

I have no complaints!

I am not surprised you don't understand.

I can't understand your attraction to men.

I'll toss support to this one too. A lot of people don't understand it so I've given up trying to explain. Kudos to both of you, working toward a common goal.