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a girl that i met after practice and i were on the same train home and we were talking and really good vibes, anyways, we get off the train still talking and we leave the station and we needed to go in oposite directions. we stopped and said goodnight but there was a weird moment, and on the way back to my dorm i was kicking myself for not walking with her to her apartment. non sexual reasons of course, weve only just met. i havent felt like that since the last time i had a gf which has been a while now. at the next practice should i talk to her about it and walk with her to her apartment (which is only a couple blocks from my dorm) and give her my number, or just dont talk about it and walk her to her apartment and give her my number? im so  . any advice would be greatfull. i dont come among girls like her very often and i dont want to blow it.
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Originally Posted by brassplayersrock
a girl that i met after practice and i were on the same train home and we were talking and really good vibes, anyways, we get off the train still talking and we leave the station and we needed to go in oposite directions. we stopped and said goodnight but there was a weird moment, and on the way back to my dorm i was kicking myself for not walking with her to her apartment. non sexual reasons of course, weve only just met. i havent felt like that since the last time i had a gf which has been a while now. at the next practice should i talk to her about it and walk with her to her apartment (which is only a couple blocks from my dorm) and give her my number, or just dont talk about it and walk her to her apartment and give her my number? im so . any advice would be greatfull. i dont come among girls like her very often and i dont want to blow it.
You certainly "blew it" (HA! HA! you're a brass player.) this time but it doesn't sound like a deal-breaker. DON'T talk to her about "it". Next time, just walk her back to her dorm and say goodnight. If she invites you in or the conversation turns to non-practice activities ask her out to do something.
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Go with it. Don't talk about it- just walk her and see where it goes.
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if it was a 'moment' like you say, she has been kicking herself also.
you can't *** up the next time you meet. Take the bull by the horns.
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no NOT ruin it by talkin bout it.
seriously, shy or not, if a girls into you then you need to be near death to not figure itout eventually.
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no NOT ruin it by talkin bout it.
seriously, shy or not, if a girls into you then you need to be near death to not figure itout eventually.
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no NOT ruin it by talkin bout it.
seriously, shy or not, if a girls into you then you need to be near death to not figure itout eventually.
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It would be mad awk to talk about it, and possibly even awk even to randomly walk her to her appartment. Instead just ask her out, biatch. Keep it real, peace out.
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well, an update. tonight we walked back to her apartment after practice and i gave her my number and screen name. its in her hands now i guess. i was sweating bullets on the way back, even though it was really cold out. why do things that seem so simple to do like giving a girl your number so nerve raking?
oh and hickey:
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:-) sorry bud
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oh and what_the_heck:
REQUEST PENDING
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Originally Posted by brassplayersrock
well, an update. tonight we walked back to her apartment after practice and i gave her my number and screen name. its in her hands now i guess. i was sweating bullets on the way back, even though it was really cold out. why do things that seem so simple to do like giving a girl your number so nerve raking?
oh and hickey:
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:-) sorry bud
Congrats. That initial push is always the hardest part.
I usually end up dating girl I've been friends with for a while. Dating a girl you've known lets you already have an idea of who the person is and lets you know beforehand how compatible you are. That's not to say just going straight for a girl doesn't have it's place. 
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thank you all for your replies. i really enjoyed reading all of them. i'll update this thread if anything progresses
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That's something new that I never heard when I was a young guy: I gave her my screenname. LOL
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Hahaha! Hear hear mondo! 
And, in other news, how about...getting her number? I think that probably should've been more what you were going for.
I mean...I know it's cliche, but women really do like a guy with confidence. You giving her your number (and screennane ) implies it's up to her to make a move (as you've indicated). If you just asked her right out for her number (and screenname ) so you could call her, well, everything would be pretty much right out there and she'd know you're a confident guy who wants to call her.
That's how I take it, anyway. It seems to have worked for me in the past.
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Originally Posted by goMac
Congrats. That initial push is always the hardest part.
I usually end up dating girl I've been friends with for a while. Dating a girl you've known lets you already have an idea of who the person is and lets you know beforehand how compatible you are. That's not to say just going straight for a girl doesn't have it's place.
Agreed 100%. The initial push is always the hardest.
goMac, just curious - is it not difficult to move from being friends to dating after you've known a girl for a while? I agree that it gives you a much better idea of who you're dating, but sometimes, isn't it hard to get stuck in the "friends zone"? :O
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Originally Posted by ShortcutToMoncton
And, in other news, how about...getting her number? I think that probably should've been more what you were going for.
I mean...I know it's cliche, but women really do like a guy with confidence. You giving her your number (and screennane ) implies it's up to her to make a move (as you've indicated). If you just asked her right out for her number (and screenname ) so you could call her, well, everything would be pretty much right out there and she'd know you're a confident guy who wants to call her.
Depends on how you give it to her. If you're with the "phone me if you want to go out" crowd, it doesn't work. If you're in the "phone me when you've decided where we're going out" it still shows confidence.
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Originally Posted by B Gallagher
Agreed 100%. The initial push is always the hardest.
goMac, just curious - is it not difficult to move from being friends to dating after you've known a girl for a while? I agree that it gives you a much better idea of who you're dating, but sometimes, isn't it hard to get stuck in the "friends zone"? :O
It can be. There's only been a few times when I've made friends with a girl with the intentions of dating her (usually it's something awkward like she already has a boyfriend, so I just make a friendship so I can come back later if I want). But, for example, with my current girlfriend, we had no intentions of dating when we started being friends. We just hung out a lot because we had a lot of common interests. Eventually the relationship just changed. And we're both really happy about it.
I think the hardest part about dating a friend is that if you break up, or if it end's up that dating wasn't such a good choice and you call it off after a few weeks, it's really awkward and you risk ruining a perfectly good friendship. For this reason I don't intentionally make friends with a girl for romantic reasons. It's just too much mess if it doesn't work out.
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