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The morality of selling a gift.
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Ok, here's the situation.
Several years ago (about five I think) my brother bought himself and me a handgun. His was slightly different than mine but essentially they were the same. At the time it was something I really was not in the market for but I didn't mind having it and it was something he really wanted to do.
Since then, as some of you may remember, he has suffered a head injury in a car accident. Though he has recovered remarkable well, he still isn't quite the same. Well, in his forgetfulness, absentmindedness and near-blindness, HIS gun was stolen. (his interest in guns seems to have waned anyway)
Now there's just mine. I really have no real use or desire to keep this gun. (though it doesn't bother me to have it around) I hold no sentimental value to it. Giving it to him is out of the question as he has no business with a gun in his current state. He's just not all there all the time.
So, in your opinions is it morally, ethically or etiquettely (new word!) ok for me to sell this thing?
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I see no trouble with it. Just make sure you sell it the proper way, or at least know who you're selling it to. There's no need for more truly dangerous people to have guns, though admittedly it isn't very hard for those types to come across guns anyway, but you are asking about the morality of the issue.
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once gifted it becomes your property, so sell it...
your brother might find out that you are selling a gift he gave you, but I would imagine that if you used that money to buy something that you would actually use he would be just as happy...
sell the gun and buy something you will use...
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I was raised to believe that once you give a gift, it's gone and never to expect anything in return (including expecting that the recipient will keep it). I also believe it's impolite to ask about the status of any gifts you've given. Your brother may not feel this way, but I think it's proper etiquette.
I do agree that you should go through whatever proper channels to sell it though. Yes, it's not hard for bad people to get guns, but let's not make it any easier.
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As long as the giver isn't going to be insulted then I say go for it.
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You could buy something nice from the money you got from selling the gun. Then show it to your brother and thank him for it.
Just an idea.
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Originally Posted by yakkiebah
You could buy something nice from the money you got from selling the gun. Then show it to your brother and thank him for it.
Just an idea.
I like this approach. You don't want to keep the gun, and giving it back to him isn't an option, so sell the gun and buy him an appropriate gift with the money.
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No no, never give a gift back. It's still a gift from his brother.
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Sell it and use the money to buy something that makes you feel good.
THAT is the best way to remember your brother.
My husband's father died and left him something pricey and we sold it and used the money to buy something we really wanted - and needed.
And we know that he is with us in spirit and doesn't mind in the least.
I would want someone to sell something if they didn't absolutely love it and especially want them to sell it if they could put the money better to use or buy themselves something that brings a smile to their faces when they use it or see it.
 sell it.
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Thanks for the replies. You guys are generally saying what I was leaning toward, so maybe I will just sell it.
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His gun was stolen? good lord.
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Originally Posted by hadocon
His gun was stolen? good lord.
Yep. The guy who is suspected is a methhead so he probably sold it. Who knows where it ended up. It was properly reported so at least my brothers ass is covered.
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"Altruism is killing America. We who want to save America must repudiate this killer, root and branch. We must understand and explain to others that the acceptance of altruism necessitates the violation of individual rights... and that the arguments for altruism are baseless..."
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I don't see any problem with you selling it. Be sure though, that you have something sentimental that your brother has given to you so there isn't that hole. Something would be equally important to you and him. Gifts are expressions of love (usually) and to abandon that expression can be hurtful. If you have something that you and he value equally, or more, and you prize that, and make it special, then you won't have much trouble parting with the gun, and if he becomes aware of it, it won't hurt him either.
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