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Salty · Jul 3, 2009, 03:02 PM

OK, so I'm wondering how many of you would say that the person you're with when you met them was probably out of your league?

Phileas · Jul 3, 2009, 03:21 PM

Looks don't come into it. To quote a friend of mine, "I am an ugly man, and yet I get the ladies".

PS: My wife is considerably better looking than me.

OreoCookie · Jul 3, 2009, 03:25 PM

Out of your league? Depends on what league you want to play in.

turtle777 · Jul 3, 2009, 03:30 PM

Originally Posted by Phileas

Looks don't come into it.

My uneducated guess is that the league that Salty is playing in, looks very much come into play.

-t

Rumor · Jul 3, 2009, 03:39 PM

Have you tried roofies?

Salty · Jul 3, 2009, 03:58 PM

I recently met this guy, he's a bit younger than me (21, I just had my 25th birthday) we met on a Christian forum, we hung out yesterday and had a really great time, but I kinda got the feeling it was more as friends. He's bi, but my guess leaning more toward the guys since he's wanting to really think things through on that. Super nice, fun, smart enough that in a conversation about a lot of things that other people would zone out on he's right there with you, and while normally smart funny and nice don't intimidate me, he's also very very very cute. Like not like insanely hot or anything, but still more than enough that it's hard to get over the assumption that he'd be looking for someone who was as hot as him.

SpaceMonkey · Jul 3, 2009, 04:09 PM

Ask his commissioner if you can have an inter-league scrimmage.

Salty · Jul 3, 2009, 04:11 PM

inter-league scrimmage... I like that idea... sounds hot...

ghporter · Jul 3, 2009, 05:08 PM

I'll say that when I met my wife, my impression was that she was WAY out of my league. She seemed smarter, more interesting and much better looking than me. Orders of magnitude better. So I kept expecting her to say "it's been nice..." But she insists that even from the beginning she felt that I was smarter, more interesting and better looking that she was. Aside from the fact that she needs glasses, we've reached an agreement-we're both crazy, but we'll accept crazy about each other.

If you get along that well then it's quite possible that this other person may be thinking that you are out of his league. And that YOUR impression of how good you look may not have anything to do with HIS impression of how good you look. Give it a chance and don't scuttle any possibilities just because you think he's "out of your league."

kmkkid · Jul 3, 2009, 05:17 PM

As long as you aren't trying to land something 20,000 leagues under the sea; you should be fine.

macfantn · Jul 3, 2009, 06:46 PM

I am not the best looking guy but I once hooked up with ginger spice. She is a ho though, she'd probably do anyone.

Shaddim · Jul 3, 2009, 07:18 PM

charisma & money > youth & looks

Laminar · Jul 3, 2009, 07:25 PM

Originally Posted by macfantn

I am not the best looking guy but I once hooked up with ginger spice. She is a ho though, she'd probably do anyone.

SpaceMonkey · Jul 3, 2009, 07:28 PM

You could also try sabotaging his personal or professional life before making your move. You know, bring him down a notch.

Laminar · Jul 3, 2009, 07:34 PM

For the record, I'm marrying someone I consider out of my league.

SpaceMonkey · Jul 3, 2009, 10:59 PM

Originally Posted by Laminar

For the record, I'm marrying someone I consider out of my league.

You didn't say in which direction.

64stang06 · Jul 3, 2009, 11:25 PM

Originally Posted by ghporter

I'll say that when I met my wife, my impression was that she was WAY out of my league. She seemed smarter, more interesting and much better looking than me. Orders of magnitude better. So I kept expecting her to say "it's been nice..." But she insists that even from the beginning she felt that I was smarter, more interesting and better looking that she was. Aside from the fact that she needs glasses, we've reached an agreement-we're both crazy, but we'll accept crazy about each other.

If you get along that well then it's quite possible that this other person may be thinking that you are out of his league. And that YOUR impression of how good you look may not have anything to do with HIS impression of how good you look. Give it a chance and don't scuttle any possibilities just because you think he's "out of your league."

+1. This is the exact boat my fiance and I are in, and it's probably why our relationship "just works".

Wiskedjak · Jul 4, 2009, 12:07 AM

Originally Posted by Salty

OK, so I'm wondering how many of you would say that the person you're with when you met them was probably out of your league?

Best way is to stop thinking that you're in a league. You'll never land that other person as long as you think they're out of your league.

Laminar · Jul 4, 2009, 12:44 AM

Originally Posted by SpaceMonkey

You didn't say in which direction.

Up. Think cheerleader, sorority girl, model, been-on-tv, gave that up to go to college, going for her masters, going to be a big shot some day, out of my league.

besson3c · Jul 4, 2009, 12:44 AM

I think you should have sex with him.

besson3c · Jul 4, 2009, 12:48 AM

Salty: nobody is out of anybody's league. Whatever leagues exist are all in your head. Now go, get your cherry popped!

quesera · Jul 4, 2009, 03:57 AM

Originally Posted by macfantn

I am not the best looking guy but I once hooked up with ginger spice. She is a ho though, she'd probably do anyone.

I initially thought of one of those scented Strawberry Shortcake dolls from the Eighties. After googling "Ginger Spice" I conclude you might have been better off with a little plastic doll.

Doofy · Jul 4, 2009, 08:12 AM

Originally Posted by besson3c

nobody is out of anybody's league. Whatever leagues exist are all in your head.

I disagree.

Everyone here (I would hope) is way out of Waynetta's league.

Doofy · Jul 4, 2009, 08:15 AM

Originally Posted by Wiskedjak

Best way is to stop thinking that you're in a league. You'll never land that other person as long as you think they're out of your league.

Actually, that's the easiest way of landing someone.

Imagine that they're out of your league (but in the opposite direction - i.e. they're luck to bag you) and it trips a trigger in your mind which outwardly displays as a confidence which they then start chasing after.

turtle777 · Jul 4, 2009, 12:28 PM

Originally Posted by Doofy

I disagree.

Everyone here (I would hope) is way out of Waynetta's league.

This is not true.

British genes and 5 pints of beer can fix that.

-t

Chuckit · Jul 4, 2009, 01:13 PM

Originally Posted by Phileas

Looks don't come into it. To quote a friend of mine, "I am an ugly man, and yet I get the ladies".

I thought it was pretty well-known that a man's status is more important in determining his league than how pretty he is. Or is your friend a lesbian?

SpaceMonkey · Jul 4, 2009, 01:29 PM

Originally Posted by Chuckit

I thought it was pretty well-known that a man's status is more important in determining his league than how pretty he is. Or is your friend a lesbian?

Jimmy Dugan: "I'm a goddamn Peach!"

Oisín · Jul 4, 2009, 05:47 PM

Originally Posted by Chuckit

I thought it was pretty well-known that a man's status is more important in determining his league than how pretty he is. Or is your friend a lesbian?

I hear male lesbians are rather common.

Salty · Jul 4, 2009, 10:01 PM

(In a farnsworth voice) GOOD NEWS EVERYONE!

So, Friday I was txting back and forth with this guy, (We'd hung out the previous day) and I mentioned going to the gym, he was like yah I don't really go like I should, I said well you are one of those bastards that can look great either way, he said he was flattered, I reached deep down into my reserves of unwise ballsyness, and I said I had to tell him I thought he was incredibly attractive, and not just physically but as a person, and he was like wow I have to say I haven't had as much fun as I did last night in forever! And then it went on and on and on and by the end of it, it seems like even though he's still even trying to figure out if he wants to seriously try dating a guy, we're like... on that preliminary part of a relationship where we're txting back and forth non stop and in general smiling way too much!

I feel like I freaking won the jackpot!

Sealobo · Jul 4, 2009, 11:09 PM

it's easy. you upgrade yourself. the world is a rat race.

Doofy · Jul 5, 2009, 05:43 AM

Originally Posted by Salty

even though he's still even trying to figure out if he wants to seriously try dating a guy

Sorry mate, but leave well alone - this will end in tears. I suspect that this guy is gayer in your head than he is in real life.

Phileas · Jul 5, 2009, 07:40 AM

^ The truth.

ghporter · Jul 5, 2009, 11:02 AM

To tag along with Doofy and Phileas, I'd advise "caution" after your "uncharacteristically forward" texting yesterday. Feeling compelled to blurt out that you thought the guy was hot is fine in itself, but not "being yourself" will show if you keep at it. Relax and see what develops without pressuring YOURSELF, let alone this new guy. Think of your text conversation as "breaking the ice" on a personal (not intimate) relationship and be happy with that. If it works at all, it'll work without your going to any extra effort, and if it doesn't work, your extra effort won't help anyway.

Laminar · Jul 5, 2009, 02:47 PM

It's like reading the diary of a 13-year-old girl.

turtle777 · Jul 5, 2009, 02:49 PM

I never read the diary of a 13-year-old girl, so I couldn't tell...

-t

SpaceMonkey · Jul 5, 2009, 03:02 PM

Use your Farnsworth voice on him. In bed.

IceEnclosure · Jul 5, 2009, 03:35 PM

just be sure to link him to the drawings you do of him.

besson3c · 04:00 PM

I would suggest drawings of you having sex with him, maybe with an ice cream cone in one hand.

besson3c · Jul 5, 2009, 04:04 PM

Am I the only one in here that has thought that Laminar and Dakar would make a great couple?

euchomai · Jul 5, 2009, 07:39 PM

I married "out of my league" according to my friends. You've done it correctly though Salty, get 'em young. At 21 they haven't drawn the circle exclusive enough. So good news, you might still be in!

Oisín · Jul 5, 2009, 08:13 PM

Originally Posted by besson3c

Am I the only one in here that has thought that Laminar and Dakar would make a great couple?

Nope.

*runs*

Laminar · Jul 5, 2009, 08:53 PM

Originally Posted by Oisín

Nope.

*runs*

*chases*

Salty · Jul 6, 2009, 10:52 AM

Originally Posted by Laminar

*chases*

Chasing gay boys on the internet Laminar? Siiigh I always wondered about you.

andi*pandi · Jul 6, 2009, 12:10 PM

2 points Salty--zing!

I never considered "league", but maybe that's something the chaser considers, not the chasee.

Laminar · Jul 6, 2009, 12:21 PM

Originally Posted by Salty

Chasing gay boys on the internet Laminar? Siiigh I always wondered about you.

And all of MacNN knew about you long before you did.

Salty · Jul 6, 2009, 01:23 PM

Originally Posted by Laminar

And all of MacNN knew about you long before you did.

I knew, I was just hoping to stay miserable and maintain friends in my conservative circle

besson3c · Jul 6, 2009, 01:25 PM

Salty: there are other ways to be miserable. I suggest eating stale food.

turtle777 · Jul 6, 2009, 01:30 PM

Originally Posted by besson3c

Salty: there are other ways to be miserable. I suggest eating stale food.

I'm surprised your "miserable" example is not poop related

Haha, j/k.

-t

besson3c · Jul 6, 2009, 01:34 PM

There is more to me than just ponys and rainbows

besson3c · Jul 6, 2009, 01:38 PM

Another thing I like to do when I want to be miserable is crazy clue my penis to my hand.