Originally posted by gorickey:
That only does which e-mail address will be default in the "FROM" field...not the "TO" field...
Sorry, you're right. Didn't read the question properly, forgot about multiple addresses for one person.
In that case I don't know, the list which comes up isn't in any recognisable order (not alphabetical, nor the order from Address Book) although it could be based on when the address was last used/most frequently used address. Can't see any way of changing it.