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kmkkid · Oct 28, 2003, 11:54 PM

Hey,

Do you guys believe in love at first sight? I never used to, but I just met the most incredible person. I only spent three days with them, and now it seems all I can think about is them.

Then they had to leave, they were just on vacation.

So now, I'm thinking about moving there to be with them.

What do you guys think? Is it truely possible to fall in love with someone after only 3 days of knowing them? And would you move half way across the country to be with them?

I've never felt this way about anybody ever, and it hurts so much to be away from them

Any thoughts/advise?

Chris

waxcrash · Oct 29, 2003, 12:01 AM

Do you go to a strip club?

nonhuman · Oct 29, 2003, 12:03 AM

Write to them or call them. Keep in touch until your next vacation, then go visit. If you still feel the same way after that, then it's reasonable to consider moving.

I would recommend against making a life-altering decision like moving based on just a few days with a person.

gwehr · Oct 29, 2003, 12:06 AM

Why the constant use of the pronoun "them"? What, did you fall in love with more than one person?

Landos Mustache · Oct 29, 2003, 12:16 AM

Originally posted by waxcrash:
Do you go to a strip club?

Ha ha.. Good one.

Anyway, no you are just infatuated. Or you haven't gotten any in a while and are excited at the idea of getting laid.

give it a few weeks at least.

kmkkid · Oct 29, 2003, 12:18 AM

Originally posted by gwehr:
Why the constant use of the pronoun "them"? What, did you fall in love with more than one person?

No, I just didnt feel like revealing the sex of my partner. Ok?

Chris

Landos Mustache · Oct 29, 2003, 12:20 AM

Originally posted by kmkkid:
No, I just didnt feel like revealing the sex of my partner. Ok?

Chris

Well when a guy says "them" they mean HIM.

kmkkid · Oct 29, 2003, 12:21 AM

Originally posted by waxcrash:
Do you go to a strip club?

Good one

Actually their cousin is a stripper

So you were close.

Chris

kmkkid · Oct 29, 2003, 12:22 AM

Originally posted by Landos Mustache:
Well when a guy says "them" they mean HIM.

shhhh or certain people will come and derail my thread with bigotry and hatred

Chris

Spliffdaddy · Oct 29, 2003, 12:24 AM

Give it 30 days - then re-evaluate the relationship.

Somebody gave me that advice a long time ago.

If you still feel the same after a month, it'll be a small miracle.

kmkkid · Oct 29, 2003, 12:26 AM

So far all my close friends say: take a vacation there a few times and see how it goes... I'll prolly be doing that soonish

Chris

waxcrash · Oct 29, 2003, 12:34 AM

Where did you meet this mystery man, woman, or object? Canada or the states?

kmkkid · Oct 29, 2003, 12:41 AM

Originally posted by waxcrash:
Where did you meet this mystery man, woman, or object? Canada or the states?

Here in my town. (ontario)

He had already bought the plane ticket before we met or he would have stayed here.

Now he wants me to move out there, which I could, cause nothings really holding me back.

It wasnt an internet thing, I'd never go for that

Chris

Landos Mustache · Oct 29, 2003, 12:43 AM

Originally posted by kmkkid:
shhhh or certain people will come and derail my thread with bigotry and hatred

Chris

I think you mean "universal acceptance, but..." which is far more annoying.

nonhuman · Oct 29, 2003, 12:45 AM

Originally posted by kmkkid:
Here in my town. (ontario)

He had already bought the plane ticket before we met or he would have stayed here. Now he wants me to move out there, which I could, cause nothings really holding me back.

It wasnt an internet thing, I'd never go for that

Chris

Where does he live? If you've got nothing holding you in Ontario, and he lives in an interesting place, maybe you should just go for it. At the very worst you end up single in a new, interesting place.

kmkkid · Oct 29, 2003, 12:47 AM

Originally posted by nonhuman:
Where does he live? If you've got nothing holding you in Ontario, and he lives in an interesting place, maybe you should just go for it. At the very worst you end up single in a new, interesting place.

Calgary... which is really beautiful, but they have worse winters than we do here in Ontario! brrr.

I think I'd really miss this bland town of mine though.

Chris

snerdini · Oct 29, 2003, 12:52 AM

Wow! Moving to be with someone after only 3 days. It's a big decision - make sure it's the right one before you totally uproot your life...

Landos Mustache · Oct 29, 2003, 12:54 AM

Originally posted by kmkkid:
Calgary... which is really beautiful, but they have worse winters than we do here in Ontario! brrr. I think I'd really miss this bland town of mine though.

Chris

Fine, come to Toronto and we can cuddle.

gwehr · Oct 29, 2003, 12:57 AM

Originally posted by kmkkid:
No, I just didnt feel like revealing the sex of my partner. Ok?

Chris

I figured that, but there are better ways of doing it.

kmkkid · Oct 29, 2003, 01:02 AM

Originally posted by Landos Mustache:
Fine, come to Toronto and we can cuddle.

pfffffft, playa

Chris

Landos Mustache · Oct 29, 2003, 01:10 AM

So really, was he a stripper?

waxcrash · Oct 29, 2003, 01:15 AM

Do you know if Mr. Calgary is gay? You wouldn't want to move and then find out this guy is straight.

kmkkid · Oct 29, 2003, 01:20 AM

Originally posted by waxcrash:
Do you know if Mr. Calgary is gay? You wouldn't want to move and then find out this guy is straight.

No, I don't know.

Chris

bobette · Oct 29, 2003, 01:25 AM

Originally posted by kmkkid:
Hey,

Do you guys believe in love at first sight?

Hell, I do, and you seem too. But does he?

Just be careful but at the same time enjoy the ride, nothing like it.

Landos Mustache · Oct 29, 2003, 01:30 AM

Personally, I believe more in "I want to **** them at first site".

Pimphire · Oct 29, 2003, 02:55 AM

Originally posted by kmkkid:
shhhh or certain people will come and derail my thread with bigotry and hatred

God loves us all, even though we are all sinners (some just more than others).

pimp

Landos Mustache · Oct 29, 2003, 03:06 AM

Nice user name there pimp!

ThinkInsane · Oct 29, 2003, 03:10 AM

Originally posted by Pimphire:
God loves us all, even though we are all sinners (some just more than others).

pimp

Ah, clever clever, use it while you can, as your flame-bait won't be lasting long....

Anyway, back to the topic. it's an interesting question. Who knows, maybe running off to be with someone you just met will shake up the usual dynamics of dating and you'll live happily ever after. Maybe not. But if you have the means to just up and move, what the hell, see what happens. Like someone else said, if it's a cool place (I've never been to Calgary), the worst that happens is you live in a new place and meet new people.

Pimphire · Oct 29, 2003, 03:16 AM

Originally posted by Landos Mustache:
Nice user name there pimp!

Thank you.

Originally posted by ThinkInsane:
Ah, clever clever, use it while you can, as your flame-bait won't be lasting long...

You're just projecting I never posted any such thing.

pimp

ThinkInsane · Oct 29, 2003, 03:20 AM

Originally posted by Pimphire:
Thank you.

You're just projecting I never posted any such thing.

pimp

And you don't have to deal with the repercussions of your actions. I do....

Pimphire · Oct 29, 2003, 03:33 AM

Originally posted by ThinkInsane:
And you don't have to deal with the repercussions of your actions. I do....

No we are all accountable for ourselfs in the end.

EvanV · Oct 29, 2003, 03:39 AM

Originally posted by kmkkid:
Calgary... which is really beautiful, but they have worse winters than we do here in Ontario! brrr. I think I'd really miss this bland town of mine though.

Chris

Well it is blizzarding here now in Calgary. About 10-15 cm just fell tonight.... Highways are all clogged up.. Going to be cold tommorow!

- - e r i k - - · Oct 29, 2003, 04:18 AM

If winter is so bad, why don't you both keep in touch and you can move there in the spring?

I'm not the one to talk though, my girlfriend moved in from day 2. And yes, we are still together after nearly two years.

Cipher13 · Oct 29, 2003, 05:06 AM

Wait a while... making a decision based on three days is just asking for trouble.

You don't really know this person yet, as much as you think you do.

You're unfamiliar with their history, their tendencies, everything really...

Vacation, spend a week or so; do that a couple of times; meet his friends, and see what they're like.

I do know the feeling though. I'm currently in a similar situation, infact.

nobitacu · Oct 29, 2003, 05:44 AM

I believe in it, but I've never had a love at first sight. For me, it's always either she likes me first, or I like her first. Never both at the same time, which sucks... Oh well, things work out fine in the end.

Ming

voodoo · Oct 29, 2003, 06:11 AM

Originally posted by nobitacu:
I believe in it, but I've never had a love at first sight. For me, it's always either she likes me first, or I like her first. Never both at the same time, which sucks... Oh well, things work out fine in the end.

Ming

That is how I feel too. Usually it is me falling for her first and she never falling for me. :|

benign · Oct 29, 2003, 07:02 AM

I believe in instant sexual attraction.

suprz's ghost · Oct 29, 2003, 08:38 AM

Originally posted by voodoo:

That is how I feel too. Usually it is me falling for her first and she never falling for me. :|

WERD!

bobette · Oct 29, 2003, 11:42 AM

Originally posted by benign:
I believe in instant sexual attraction.

Just cuz you have a permanent boner doesn't mean the attraction is reciprocal.

benign · Oct 29, 2003, 11:49 AM

Sorry bobette my original post was not
anally focused enough for you.

"I believe in instant reciprocal sexual
attraction is possible."

mitchell_pgh · Oct 29, 2003, 11:51 AM

I know all about love at first sight!

benign · Oct 29, 2003, 12:20 PM

Originally posted by mitchell_pgh:
I know all about love at first sight!

Just Infatuation and non-reciprocal.

kmkkid · Oct 29, 2003, 01:24 PM

Originally posted by mitchell_pgh:
I know all about love at first sight!

The powermac G4's looked way better imho.

Sure the speed of the G5 is lovable though

Chris

ASIMO · Oct 29, 2003, 05:55 PM

"Love at first sight" is as realistic as "THE one."

fat mac moron · Oct 29, 2003, 06:39 PM

Originally posted by kmkkid:
Hey,

Do you guys believe in love at first sight? I never used to, but I just met the most incredible person. I only spent three days with them, and now it seems all I can think about is them.

So now, I'm thinking about moving there to be with them.

What do you guys think? Is it truely possible to fall in love with someone after only 3 days of knowing them? And would you move half way across the country to be with them?

I've never felt this way about anybody ever, and it hurts so much to be away from them

Any thoughts/advise?

Chris

Welcome to the club. I met a woman sometime in June of this year, when I was on a business trip in Texas. She lives in Washington state while I'm "temporarily" in Massachusetts.*

I can't explain what it was about her... The second I saw her, I wanted her (not in a sexual way, though I did lust for her). Amazingly, she felt the same way about me. It's been a LONG 5 months, but I'll be seeing her again in November. We talk every day, on the phone, but being around each other again will be the big step I guess. I've never felt like this about anyone either. I wake up and I'm thinking of her. I daydream at work about her. I go home and think about her. I go to sleep and I think about her. We had an arguement about a month ago and I swear I felt physically ill the next day because I was afraid she'd dump me.

I can't be around her when I'd like to be, which makes it very hard. I really hope it works out, because I'd be devastated if she left me.

* I have 8 potential job openings being reviewed for promotion. One of those jobs happen to be in Seattle, where she lives. I honestly think I'd weep in happiness if I landed that job. I can't think of what my life would be like without her.

Beewee · Oct 29, 2003, 07:43 PM

I believe in lust, and infatuation at first sight but not love.
The falling in love in 3 days would be nice, "with a love that would last forever." But I am more cynical and have only found that kind of magical love in chick flicks and romantic comedies. As well as some action movies, the whole thing of the hero kicking ass and getting the girl is great and I really wish stuff like that did happen; I do I really do...but it doesn't.

UR-20 · Oct 29, 2003, 07:50 PM

That sounds like borderline obsession to me.

thunderous_funker · Oct 29, 2003, 07:52 PM

Originally posted by nonhuman:
Write to them or call them. Keep in touch until your next vacation, then go visit. If you still feel the same way after that, then it's reasonable to consider moving.

I would recommend against making a life-altering decision like moving based on just a few days with a person.

Good advice.

And yes, it does happen. My wife and I fell in love in a matter of days, kept in touch while we lived far away from one another, kept working at it and eventually ended up together.

Love doesn't conquer all--it takes a lot of work--but anyone who made that much impression on you is probably worth keeping in touch with. It might turn into something, and it might not but its certainly worth it.

Footy · Oct 29, 2003, 10:55 PM

It is possible for "love at first sight" but in the end the relationship is only going to be as good as the work you put into it. So wether you find that "love" after 3 days or 3 years, what will matter is after 50 years (I'm guessing at this one, only been married for 13 years now).

My wife and I met in Hawaii and hung out for a couple weeks. We realized that in order for us to stay together we'd have to make things a bit more permeant given the situation. So after 3 weeks we got married. That will be 13 years ago on November 23rd.

Has it always been easy? No. First couple years were an adjustment but probable no more than any marriage. Has it been a happy 13 years? YES!

However... that said... I'm not sure that I would ever suggest to anyone to follow our lead. It worked for us but I'd say we're a rare case most likely.

If I were you Chris I think I'd just stay were you are. Don't rush anything.

passmaster16 · Oct 29, 2003, 11:18 PM

Originally posted by nonhuman:
Write to them or call them. Keep in touch until your next vacation, then go visit. If you still feel the same way after that, then it's reasonable to consider moving.

I would recommend against making a life-altering decision like moving based on just a few days with a person.

Sound advice from nonhuman.

It's important to be realistic about the situation. Sometimes you get so caught up in the emotions that you make decisions based on what you're feeling at that time. For some it may work but I'd venture to say that it is definitely the exception rather than the rule. I would step back and just continue to communicate with the person until you have the opportunity to spend more time with him. I guess the other variable is that he may not feel as strongly about you as you do for him. You wouldn't want to make that decision just to find out he doesn't feel the same.