[iM@k]

This summer I have been asked to be the Best Man at not one, but two weddings.

Aside from the well known bachelor party, for which one of the events I have the bride-to-be's blessing to take her future husband up to Montreal (Search for my previous thread regarding this beautiful city)

But aside from that and standing next to the groom during the ceremony are there other things I'm expected and/or should do?

Obviously helping the groom out if hes gets nervous or needs help with anything I think is implied.

[Cold Warrior]

During the reception following the wedding, you're expected to give a toast where you speak a bit about the groom.

[KeriVit]

Originally Posted by iM@k 

This summer I have been asked to to be the Best Man at not one but two weddings.

Aside from the well know bachelor party, for which one of the events I have the bride-to-be's blessing to take her future husband up to Montreal (Search for me previous thread regarding this beautiful city)

BUt aside fromt hat and standing next to the gromm during the ceremonoy are there ather things I'm expected and/or should do?

Obviously helping the groom out if hes gets nervous or needs help with anything I think is implied.

Have you been drinking already today?

[scaught]

Originally Posted by Cold Warrior 

During the reception following the wedding, you're expected to give a toast where you speak a bit about the groom.

Yes. If you're not naturally gifted in this area, get something together. Even if you think you are, at least take some notes.

[iM@k]

Originally Posted by KeriVit 

Have you been drinking already today?

LOL. No, I just suck at typing! usually I review what I've typed more closely before I post.

Whoa: I just edited my original post.....maybe I was drinking and don't remember it!

[Jawbone54]

Bachelor party, toast, and returning the groom's tux. Like you said, just be there for the groom and get anything he needs. It's an easy job.

You're also obligated to lead the groomsmen in making things difficult for the wedding coordinator.

[MacinTommy]

Make sure he doesn't do anything at the bachelor party...

[Mastrap]

A good best man is the grooms brain on the day. My best man was actually a girl - we've been friends for ever, we never dated, my wife to be didn't have a problem with my choice and she is one of the most organized people I know.

A good best man will get involved with the planning of the wedding, but purely in an advisory position. He will make suggestions, but never push his opinions. On the day of the wedding he will be responsible for the following:

1. Is the ring ready and waiting?
2. Is the groom ready? Haircut done, nose hair removed, hands manicured or at least clean?
3. Is the groom's outfit ready? Dry cleaned, shoes polished? If it is rented, the best man is responsible for it's safe return.
4. Is the hotel booked for the bride and groom?
5. Has their luggage been sent from their home to the hotel/airline/wherever they're going after the wedding?
6. Has the car been booked?
7. The best man should carry with him a considerable amount of cash money, to pay whoever needs paying and to take care of all tips.
8. Moral support.
9. Speech.

10. Other stuff as necessary.

[Andrew Stephens]

never ever attempt to shag the bride.

[el chupacabra]

take presents and left over food back to grooms house.
tie cans to the get away vehicle.

you basically like a second wedding coordinator that takes care of everything else so the bride and groom can relax.
often times the brides maids take a lot of it off your hands cuz they're into that kind of stuff....the bride and groom now are responsible for paying all your fees, airline ticket, hotel etc. to get you the wedding... and yet they usually don't. so dont be so worried about following the traditions.

[turtle777]

Don't the Best Men also have to hand out tips ?

-t

[lpkmckenna]

Hookers and blow. Everyone's counting on you.

[Montezuma58]

Do whatever you and the bride and groom explicitly agree upon. Wedding etiquette is just bizarre and contrived. And it varies from family, church, community etc. If the parties involved just expect people to know it and do certain things then someone will end up getting disappointed or offended.

[OreoCookie]

Keep yourself in the background and try to keep things running as smoothly as possible.

[Eug]

Originally Posted by Andrew Stephens 

never ever attempt to shag the bride.

I'm told that the Maid of Honour is OK though.

[Mastrap]

I always thought that was an expectation.

[ajprice]

Forget the rings at the wedding, then for the speech insult random members of the family and make up a story about going to a strip joint lastnight and getting the groom laid while you were all high.

[Chongo]

Making sure he makes to the ceremony or doesn't run off with Maid of Honor, (or is it Honour?)

[BRussell]

The best man has to pay for the wedding.