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Danney
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Sep 9, 2013, 03:28 AM
 
Yesterday I joined my friend's wedding. I have to say the maid of honor is more beautiful than the bride. Out of courtesy, I still said to the bride "Wow, you are absolutely the most beautiful lady today. Congratulations!" Am I disingenuous? What could I say to make it better? Do you ever have similar experience?
     
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Sep 9, 2013, 03:41 AM
 
My knee-jerk response is a wedding should be an exhibition, not a competition.
     
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Sep 9, 2013, 08:12 AM
 
It's the bride's day. Everybody else is just there to set the stage. Behave accordingly.
     
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Sep 9, 2013, 09:41 AM
 
It's the groom's day, too. Just sayin'.
     
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Sep 9, 2013, 01:27 PM
 
Originally Posted by shifuimam View Post
It's the groom's day, too. Just sayin'.
No.
     
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Sep 9, 2013, 01:55 PM
 
I guess it depends on the couple.
     
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Sep 9, 2013, 02:22 PM
 
For even thinking it, you're kind of a jerk and not a great friend. If you had told the bride the bridesmaid was prettier, you'd be 10 times a jerk and a horrible friend. So, what does this say about you?
     
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Sep 9, 2013, 02:27 PM
 
Originally Posted by shifuimam View Post
I guess it depends on the couple.
No.

PS: Not trying to be a jerk. Just talking from experience
     
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Sep 9, 2013, 02:51 PM
 
Originally Posted by Phileas View Post
No.

PS: Not trying to be a jerk. Just talking from experience
So you're saying I'm lying when I want my partner to be as involved in the wedding planning and execution as I am.

No, it really does depend on the couple. Not every bride is a selfish bitch.
     
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Sep 9, 2013, 04:06 PM
 
Originally Posted by shifuimam View Post
So you're saying I'm lying when I want my partner to be as involved in the wedding planning and execution as I am.
Not sure how this makes it "the groom's day" if you recruit him to be involved...

The bridesmaids are involved in the wedding planning and execution. It's not their day.
The in-laws are involved in the wedding planning and execution.
The family is involved in the wedding planning and execution. It's not their day.

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Sep 9, 2013, 04:24 PM
 
We solved this problem by only inventing people who were less attractive than us to our wedding.

My sig is 1 pixel too big.
     
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Sep 9, 2013, 04:40 PM
 
Originally Posted by turtle777 View Post
Not sure how this makes it "the groom's day" if you recruit him to be involved...

The bridesmaids are involved in the wedding planning and execution. It's not their day.
The in-laws are involved in the wedding planning and execution.
The family is involved in the wedding planning and execution. It's not their day.

-t
I'd say it's "the couple's day" more than anything else. I realize women care more than men about dresses and flowers and whatnot, but marriage takes two people to accomplish.

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We solved this problem by only inventing people who were less attractive than us to our wedding.
This is brilliant.
     
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Sep 9, 2013, 09:43 PM
 
Originally Posted by ort888 View Post
We solved this problem by only inventing people who were less attractive than us to our wedding.
It seems brilliant
     
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Sep 10, 2013, 12:36 AM
 
Originally Posted by Danney View Post
Yesterday I joined my friend's wedding. I have to say the maid of honor is more beautiful than the bride. Out of courtesy, I still said to the bride "Wow, you are absolutely the most beautiful lady today. Congratulations!" Am I disingenuous? What could I say to make it better? Do you ever have similar experience?
In the strictest sense of the word, what you said was disingenuous. Is it traditional in your culture to tell the bridge that she is the most beautiful lady in attendance? If not, would it have been equally complimentary to the bridge to simply say that she was incredibly beautiful?
     
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Sep 10, 2013, 02:55 AM
 
Originally Posted by ort888 View Post
We solved this problem by only inventing people who were less attractive than us to our wedding.
How do you invent people?

Writes the guy who got route wrong
     
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Sep 10, 2013, 04:02 AM
 
Originally Posted by shifuimam View Post
So you're saying I'm lying when I want my partner to be as involved in the wedding planning and execution as I am.

No, it really does depend on the couple. Not every bride is a selfish bitch.
But YOU want him to do that.

He'll go along and make it his party, too, but it's still your day.
     
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Sep 10, 2013, 09:51 AM
 
That's an overly selfish view of it.

I'm not going to view my wedding day as MY day. It's OUR day. If he's legitimately only going along with the wedding because it's "my day" and not because he's just as excited as I am about getting married and sharing that with our close friends, he's the wrong person for me.
     
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Sep 10, 2013, 10:16 AM
 
My daughter got married back in May. As much as her fiancee was involved in the decisions and planning (and he was very involved), it still was pretty much her day. He was very excited about everything, but even he acknowledged that this was her show.
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I'll read it in your entrails
     
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Sep 10, 2013, 10:19 AM
 
Hm.

I'm way more interested in the afterparty than the ceremony, anyhow.
     
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Sep 10, 2013, 10:20 AM
 
Originally Posted by Laminar View Post
In the strictest sense of the word, what you said was disingenuous. Is it traditional in your culture to tell the bridge that she is the most beautiful lady in attendance? If not, would it have been equally complimentary to the bridge to simply say that she was incredibly beautiful?
How, exactly, do you determine the gender of a bridge?
     
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Sep 10, 2013, 12:18 PM
 
Originally Posted by shifuimam View Post
How, exactly, do you determine the gender of a bridge?
If you cross it and it withholds sex, it's a girl.
     
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Sep 10, 2013, 07:45 PM
 
Correct Answer: "You look beautiful." Done
     
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Sep 10, 2013, 08:00 PM
 
Originally Posted by shifuimam View Post
How, exactly, do you determine the gender of a bridge?
Bridges are male, tunnels are female.
     
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Sep 10, 2013, 08:04 PM
 
Originally Posted by Laminar View Post
Bridges are male, tunnels are female.
What about covered bridges? Oh, wait...
     
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Sep 10, 2013, 08:09 PM
 
It's a gray area. They're allowed to self-define.
     
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Sep 10, 2013, 09:43 PM
 
Originally Posted by BlueSky View Post
If you cross it and it withholds sex, it's a girl.
The so-called Bridge to nowhere

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