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Help locating a birth parent
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Mac Elite
Join Date: Feb 2001
Location: 34.06 N 118.47 W
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Anyone have a suggestion for finding someone (birth parent) when all you have is a full name, age and a social security number?
_Very_ little to go on, no last known address, no phone numbers, just a name and SSN on a birth certificate. Hiring an investigator is preferable, but not an option for financial reasons right now.
Any help appreciated.
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A lie can go halfway around the world before the truth even gets its boots on. - Mark Twain
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Join Date: Aug 2003
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I assume you have tried Google.
The next thing is to make sure they are still alive. Try the Social Security Death Index. People don't show up there until they die. It's online for free.
After that, you might try property records if you know the county where they might be living. Some tools are online for free.
Other than that, try a major phone book search like questdex.com or any of the others you can find on Google.
I've never done this before, but I did find the best man in my father's wedding who he hasn't seen for 30+ years.
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Those are about the best suggestions there are in your case.
A private investigator pretty much does that... just has connections to get it done quicker, and on a larger scale (more databases).
Good luck.
IMHO an investigator is about your only option if you don't find anything with relative ease. Typically, it's pretty hard, from what I've read... but every so often, someone gets lucky. So it's worth the shot.
IMHO, I would check the city on that birth certificate first. Find relatives and friends... then work outwards.
You have a better chance that way. All you need is 1 friend, who can recommend a few family members, or more friends. Each step increases you chance on finding someone who still has contact. Even a friend hasn't seen your birth parent in 20 years, they may know 5 other friends... one of those might.
That would be my approach. Is use what you know, and work through, using all leads.
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Mac Elite
Join Date: Feb 2001
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Alligator-
I did try the SSDI, and nothing was there, thankfully. Googled too. I saw a lot of places that say they will investigate for $39-119, but I have no idea who is reputable.
I have found less than a dozen listings across the US.
Robert-
I though of locating relative, but there are none to be found after 27 years.
I'll have to go the investigator route. Any suggestions..??
Thanks to you both!
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A lie can go halfway around the world before the truth even gets its boots on. - Mark Twain
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Join Date: Aug 2003
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How about letting us try? Can't hurt, can it? I have a few bookmarks for things like this.
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I sent it to you privately. Thanks!
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A lie can go halfway around the world before the truth even gets its boots on. - Mark Twain
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Join Date: Jul 2001
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You haven't mentioned your age (which could be significant).
If you are under 18, I'd suggest checking with your adoptive parents first.
That having been said, there are support groups for adopted kids finding their natural parent. I would go to one of these, as they could not only give you better advice on finding them, but also support in dealing with the situation once you find/don't find them.
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Join Date: Apr 2001
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Yeah, you can send me the info as well, I'm good with this kind of stuff.
I know a few places that may turn up something. Instant message, private message, or email me.
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"And after we are through, ten years in making it to be the most of glorious debuts."
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I work in a law firm that regularly tracks people down. I would be willing to give it a go if you want another hand. boardsurfer at sbcglobal dot net. If you have a State to start with, that would be really helpful too.
Alligator: thanks for asking, I am willing but wasnt sure it was appropriate.
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Join Date: Apr 2000
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One most likely illegal but effective way is to run a credit check. Name and SS should be enough. That should give you more info, but could land you in hot water.
Depends on your desperation level.
EDIT:
Let reiterate that this would not be legal and I'm not suggesting it. I'm just saying it would probably give the info you want.
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Mac Elite
Join Date: Feb 2001
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Thanks for all the support.
Lerk, you are ever the thoughtful, class act. Tip of the hat to you, sir. And thanks. It is for someone very close to me and this has become an issue lately.
I have sent the info to those that asked, as I want to keep that info off the public forum. I appreciate the offers of help.
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A lie can go halfway around the world before the truth even gets its boots on. - Mark Twain
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You got mail. Good Luck!
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Wow, sounds like someone has been located!
I feel I need to give adopting parents a cheer. My sister in law and her husband have just adopted a 3 month old baby a couple months ago (5 months old now). It's so great to see such big hearted people give a baby all the love they deserve.
And how about a cheer for those that give their baby up for adoption so that their child might have a better life that they may not be able to provide. That takes a pretty big heart as well.
-Footy
Originally posted by boardsurfer:
You got mail. Good Luck!
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Mac Elite
Join Date: Feb 2001
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Simply an amazing bunch you all are.
The offers of help have left me humbled. Boardsurfer has provided me with the info in record time and several others have made offers to help and I thank you all.
It is an odd feeling to have so many people offer to help someone you don't even know. It is even more odd to find this in an area usually populated by spirited arguements over computer, religion, politics, cars and the many other lounge posts that each take on a life of their own.
To all of you my sincerest thanks. There is so more to the story and I'll let you know how this goes. It won't be for a bit, but sooner than later.
TI- Just saw your message as well. My thanks to you as well!
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A lie can go halfway around the world before the truth even gets its boots on. - Mark Twain
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Join Date: Feb 2000
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Hey, for all the bitchin' and fighting that goes on here, we're still a community, and we can pull together and put or differences aside for a good cause. Besides, flame-fests get boring after a while, and we need something new to distract us once in a while.
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Nemo me impune lacesset
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Join Date: Apr 2001
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Originally posted by ThinkInsane:
Hey, for all the bitchin' and fighting that goes on here, we're still a community, and we can pull together and put or differences aside for a good cause. Besides, flame-fests get boring after a while, and we need something new to distract us once in a while.
A toast to life?
*clink*
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"And after we are through, ten years in making it to be the most of glorious debuts."
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Join Date: Jan 2003
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good luck!
well done boardsurfer
[edit: oh, and *clink* ]
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That was fun, and I got goosebumps when I found the record.
*clink!*
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Way to go, BTP! I've tried for years, without success, to find any info on my birth parents. Alas, I'm 38, and fear the trail is growing cold.
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Just a word of warning from a fellow adoptee-
Don't contact this person without really thinking it through. It could well be the biggest shock of his/her life, and it may not be appropriate to unilaterally initiate contact with them if they don't seek it.
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Join Date: Dec 2002
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Originally posted by BRussell:
Just a word of warning from a fellow adoptee-
Me too!
And that is good advice from BRussell. A lot of birth parents leave instructions about contact with the agencies with which they have placed children. I also advise gently informing your adopted parents prior to contact and make sure you're not doing it for vendictive or spitefull reasons. Remember after you make contact, things will never be the same again. You can't un-ring the bell.
Good Luck
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Join Date: Oct 2002
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I love this place, you people are amazing, 'I love youse all'.
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