[hart]

have you ever had a really intense transference experience in therapy? What happened? How did it turn out?

I used to think the whole concept was a bunch of baloney, a sucker trap for the weak-minded but now I'm not so sure.

[Cubeoid]

baloney! I've always wanted to use that word and I have now done so. Thanks hart.

[hart]

according to Sherlock:

baloney
n : pretentious or silly talk or writing

[syn: boloney, bilgewater, bosh, drool, humbug, taradiddle, tarradiddle, tommyrot, tosh, twaddle]

is actually a seperate word from

bologna
n 1: the capital of Emilia-Romagna; located in northern Italy east of the Apennines [syn: Bologna] 2: large smooth-textured smoked sausage of beef and veal and pork

I always wondered.

so, is the concept of transference a lot of bilgewater, bosh, drool, humbug, taradiddle, tarradiddle, tommyrot, tosh and twaddle?

[BlueSky]

I once transferred thousands of dollars to my therapist before I decided it was all taradiddle.*


* bilgewater

[hart]

and what lead you to come to that conclusion?

(I just got my therapist's most recent bill. Gasp!! Choke!!)

[ghporter]

It happens, and sometimes it's a good thing that it does. However, it doesn't happen very strongly, nor very obviously in most therapy relationships, so it takes a very good therapist to see it and identify it.

You should note that since therapy is often a painful process, sometimes the patient gets hostile toward the therapist just because the therapist is guiding him into that painful area of his subconscious. But often, also, the patient starts to feel better and simply connects the therapist's help with feeling better, so the patient gets attached to the therapist. Both can be signs of transferrence.

Me, when I was in treatment (not analysis), I critiqued my doctor's counselling style. To myself, of course; I didn't want to hurt his feelings.

[hart]

Originally Posted by ghporter

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Me, when I was in treatment (not analysis), I critiqued my doctor's counselling style. To myself, of course; I didn't want to hurt his feelings.

so if you hurt his feelings could that be interpreted as hostility or is a cigar only a cigar sometimes?

I was in couple's therapy for two years and sometimes I got so exasperated with the woman. She didn't seem to have enough of a grip on the process. With couples you really need to keep it from being just a continuation of arguments from home. If I hadn't been in my own therapy it probably would have been extremely hard on me. As it was I learned to take care of myself really, really well. And maybe that was the best thing that could have happened.

I'm theorizing that there's two levels of therapeutic relationship here. First the usual one in which you go with a problem, talk about it and either feel better/solve the problem or you don't and you move on (or dribble on for years whining about your life). Then there's the ones that plunge off into a classic Freudian structure with all that goes with that.

someone here has got to have had a classic transerence experience with this bunch of psychos!

[shunt]

let's get small...









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[hart]

Originally Posted by shunt

let's get small...




.

I can see that your years of therapy have done you a world of good

[ironknee]

^^ lol shows how young you are ::

[BRussell]

So you had sex with your therapist. Don't come to us looking for justification.

[hart]

Originally Posted by BRussell

So you had sex with your therapist. Don't come to us looking for justification.

Who, me? Fortunately, she's more sensible than to have sex with me.

[Kerrigan]

I thought psychoanalysis was obsolete

[BRussell]

Originally Posted by hart

Who, me? Fortunately, she's more sensible than to have sex with me.

Ah, I see, you WANT to have sex with her. Perhaps you should see another therapist about this.

[Rolling Bones]

I have an excellent therapist, really.

The day I see him I don't piss anyone off here. The next day I jump on every idiot here. Well not every one just my favorite idiots.

He is a very calming person and it calms me.

Is that transference? I'm not really sure what it is.

[Kerrigan]

Rolling Bones, it sounds to me like you have it all backwards:

You come onto MacNN and take out all of your anger on us anonymous peeps here.

Then after all that NN transference, you are finally calm by the time you see your therapist.

[Rolling Bones]

Originally Posted by Kerrigan

Rolling Bones, it sounds to me like you have it all backwards:

You come onto MacNN and take out all of your anger on us anonymous peeps here.

Then after all that NN transference, you are finally calm by the time you see your therapist.

Hmmm?...Maybe you're right.

Can I make an appointment? When are you available?

[ironknee]

^^ it's very common. one gets angry at others on the streets easier than with one's friends/relationships...

watch where you're going pal...