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shifuimam · 03:46 PM

I'm curious, especially from the guys in 'NN (since there are so many women...ahahaha)...

When you're dating a girl, how soon after you start dating do you expect a little action (and by "action" I mean something that requires articles of clothing to be removed)? Two dates? Three dates? Six months? Do you not expect anything at all?

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Also: what happens if you don't get what you expect? Do you ditch the girl for someone who puts out fast enough for your liking?
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Chuckit · Oct 30, 2007, 11:57 AM

Well, I'll at least let her count the cash first, but after that, it's go time.

residentEvil · Oct 30, 2007, 12:17 PM

i expect nothing. i'm fat, ugly and drink. so, i don't have dates in the first place.

JonoMarshall · Oct 30, 2007, 12:31 PM

A few hours? Asking "What's for dessert?" after a meal usually works...

iMOTOR · Oct 30, 2007, 12:33 PM

Originally Posted by shifuimam

expect a little action (and by "action" I mean something that.......

Just say intercourse and be done with it.

sek929 · Oct 30, 2007, 12:38 PM

3 dates or a couple weeks. I assume getting a chicks top off is included so that's what I'm basing my answer off of.

As for getting laid, it honestly depends if the girl is worth it..but even if she was I'd say 3 months of steady dating would be my absolute limit.

scaught · Oct 30, 2007, 12:40 PM

I've tagged a few on the first date. I don't think I would wait months or anything.

3 months?!!! Don't you have the Kennedy name to live up to?!?!

finboy · Oct 30, 2007, 12:50 PM

Originally Posted by sek929

3 dates or a couple weeks. I assume getting a chicks top off is included so that's what I'm basing my answer off of.

As for getting laid, it honestly depends if the girl is worth it..but even if she was I'd say 3 months of steady dating would be my absolute limit.

But I'd bet he'd wait longer if Mom said it was OK.

Laminar · Oct 30, 2007, 12:51 PM

Scaught, I just got your sig. Clever.

sek929 · Oct 30, 2007, 12:51 PM

If she was Adriana Lima, yes.

90% of all my sexual encounters were with girls who were, umm, well...sluts. My current g/f jumped me after a week.

My greatest claim to fame is when some chick showed up at my house while I was watching Return of the King (sober, which is rare for a movie) and within a half hour I was walkin' her ass back home

sek929 · Oct 30, 2007, 12:53 PM

Originally Posted by finboy

But I'd bet he'd wait longer if Mom said it was OK.

zipperzap · Oct 30, 2007, 12:58 PM

I was 15 ... minding my own business ... playing basketball with my friends (1960) ... got seduced by a lady (wow! THAT'S a story!) ... she told me always be honest and upfront ... been begging ever since ... works for me - about three dates.

sek929 · Oct 30, 2007, 01:01 PM

I hear a few shots and Percocets can take it down to one date.

I keeed, I keeed

BlueSky · Oct 30, 2007, 01:02 PM

Second encounter. Sometimes the first, but certainly by the second.

shifuimam · Oct 30, 2007, 01:13 PM

Originally Posted by BlueSky

Second encounter. Sometimes the first, but certainly by the second.

So if she doesn't put out (or at least take her top off) by the end of the second date, is that it for you?

osiris · Oct 30, 2007, 01:15 PM

If I respect her, and she respects herself, than I say a few dates or more. If I just find her hot, less than 6 hours.

But I've only started dating the past couple of years (vs just seeking sex), and am shacked up with a lovely woman.

BlueSky · Oct 30, 2007, 01:40 PM

Originally Posted by shifuimam

So if she doesn't put out (or at least take her top off) by the end of the second date, is that it for you?

No. I'm responding from past experience, but if more intimacy takes longer, I'm game if I like her. In any case you can tell by the second encounter if things are going to go further, it's just that I don't think I've ever had to wait long. In fact sometimes they've made the first move before I was actually ready to go that way, but I'm a jolly good sport and I've always followed the hint if it showed up.

It ultimately depends on the person. If she's open/honest and says she wants to wait, that's great if I'm interested in the first place. But I did have an ongoing thing with someone that led to nothing, and it finally occurred to me that she was quite a tease, and quite possibly had a rape fantasy, gathering from a couple of experiences she had related to me. So, no patience for that. Honesty good, tease bad.

RAILhead · Oct 30, 2007, 01:48 PM

Am I the only one imagining this picture topless?

You're such a tease, shifuimam.

shifuimam · Oct 30, 2007, 02:01 PM

Originally Posted by RAILhead

Am I the only one imagining this picture topless?

You're such a tease, shifuimam.

I don't know about that.

Cipher13 · Oct 30, 2007, 02:29 PM

Depends, really. I've never had to wait more than a "date" or two ("dating" is such an American thing... it seems so official).

The girls I didn't know before getting with them, maybe 2nd or 3rd time we saw each other. Sometimes first.
The girls I already knew? First time there was any interest, generally.

RAILhead · Oct 30, 2007, 02:36 PM

Originally Posted by shifuimam

I don't know about that.

Don't know about what? All of us trying to imagine that pic topless? I think pretty much every guy imagines a cute girl topless when given the opportunity.

Railroader · Oct 30, 2007, 02:40 PM

Originally Posted by RAILhead

Am I the only one imagining this picture topless.

Hopefully you are!!!

shifuimam · Oct 30, 2007, 02:47 PM

Originally Posted by Railroader

Hopefully you are!!!

Yes, I'd hate to give the rest of you nightmares. Just close your eyes and think of England.

RAILhead · Oct 30, 2007, 02:50 PM

Originally Posted by Railroader

Hopefully you are!!!

Dude, she's legal.

Of course, it's not the ideal place for her to be standing around topless, but still. Maybe you like teh big laydees?

Rumor · Oct 30, 2007, 03:09 PM

I generally don't date. If I really want some, usually the first encounter. The most I've worked on one is around a month, ended up not being worth it.

shifuimam · Oct 30, 2007, 03:13 PM

Originally Posted by RAILhead

Dude, she's legal.

Ahaha...I doubt that's what he was getting at.

RAILhead · Oct 30, 2007, 03:24 PM

Well, I didn't want to be so brazen as to say nekkid, if that's what he was getting at. I was trying to show a little respect, no?

BadKosh · Oct 30, 2007, 03:29 PM

2-3 evenings max. Whether thats all in 1 week or not.....

IceEnclosure · Oct 30, 2007, 03:45 PM

pretty freakin' quickly.

Big Mac · Oct 30, 2007, 03:53 PM

Originally Posted by Cipher13

Depends, really. I've never had to wait more than a "date" or two ("dating" is such an American thing... it seems so official).

The girls I didn't know before getting with them, maybe 2nd or 3rd time we saw each other. Sometimes first.
The girls I already knew? First time there was any interest, generally.

Then either you're a stud or you're only going after total skanks, IMHO.

Laminar · Oct 30, 2007, 04:28 PM

He's mentioned before he targets sizes 6-8, so take that into consideration...

Face Ache · Oct 30, 2007, 06:20 PM

I'm fighting 'em off with a stick over here.

goMac · Oct 30, 2007, 06:22 PM

Before the first date?

scaught · Oct 30, 2007, 06:29 PM

Originally Posted by Laminar

Scaught, I just got your sig. Clever.

jeez. it only took you like 6 years.

paul w · Oct 30, 2007, 06:47 PM

Expect? I dunno over here in metropolis the ladies seem to want it as much as the average dude. To the point that when I finally met the one I ended up with, after 3 dates I figured nothing was going to happen.

Then came date 4, hopefully the last goddamn date I'll ever go on.

G4ME · Oct 30, 2007, 07:46 PM

it will be if i have anything to say about it

abe · Oct 30, 2007, 07:53 PM

I wait until marriage.

A woman I was seeing persisted and then insisted until I relented and then afterwards I wanted nothing more to do with her.

paul w · Oct 30, 2007, 07:58 PM

Get married often then?

(and btw your the analogy in your sig just doesn't make sense if it refers to what I think it does...)

scaught · Oct 30, 2007, 08:16 PM

Originally Posted by abe

I wait until marriage.

A woman I was seeing persisted and then insisted until I relented and then afterwards I wanted nothing more to do with her.

Seriously though, what if you are sexually incompatible?

abe · Oct 30, 2007, 08:30 PM

Originally Posted by scaught

Seriously though, what if you are sexually incompatible?

What does that mean?

She is a woman. I am a man.

Period.

Or is there more to it?

d4nth3m4n · Oct 30, 2007, 08:35 PM

Originally Posted by abe

I wait until marriage.

A woman I was seeing persisted and then insisted until I relented and then afterwards I wanted nothing more to do with her.

you married that 18 year old girl? well, color me shocked.

and on topic- it depends on how much alcohol is involved.

Railroader · Oct 30, 2007, 08:36 PM

Originally Posted by RAILhead

Maybe you like teh big laydees?

Originally Posted by Laminar

He's mentioned before he targets sizes 6-8, so take that into consideration...

WOW! You have a goo memory. My wife is 5'0" and a small size 6. And a bundle of muscle and attitude.

abe · Oct 30, 2007, 08:42 PM

Originally Posted by d4nth3m4n

you married that 18 year old girl? well, color me shocked.

and on topic- it depends on how much alcohol is involved.

Incidently she'll be 21 next spring.

paul w · Oct 30, 2007, 08:56 PM

Originally Posted by abe

What does that mean?

She is a woman. I am a man.

Period.

Or is there more to it?

Do other interests, personality types matter? I mean, it is a side of someone you're going to eventually have to meet. People are amazing diverse in bed and surprisingly so...

What's difficult to understand about two people getting along or not getting along in bed? Do orgasms not matter? Or is sex only important if it makes babies?

It's another side of you, an important, intimate side. If your argument is religious, then fine. But otherwise I don't see the point in depriving yourself.

abe · Oct 30, 2007, 09:00 PM

Originally Posted by paul w

Do other interests, personality types matter? I mean, it is a side of someone you're going to eventually have to meet. People are amazing diverse in bed and surprisingly so...

What's difficult to understand about two people getting along or not getting along in bed? Do orgasms not matter? Or is sex only important if it makes babies?

It's another side of you, an important, intimate side. If your argument is religious, then fine. But otherwise I don't see the point in depriving yourself.

Let's drop it.

paul w · Oct 30, 2007, 09:01 PM

ok

abe · Oct 30, 2007, 09:03 PM

Originally Posted by paul w

ok

Thanks!

- - e r i k - - · Oct 30, 2007, 09:05 PM

No expectations, but it generally happens in the first two encounters anyway

scaught · Oct 30, 2007, 09:52 PM

Originally Posted by paul w

Do other interests, personality types matter? I mean, it is a side of someone you're going to eventually have to meet. People are amazing diverse in bed and surprisingly so...

What's difficult to understand about two people getting along or not getting along in bed? Do orgasms not matter? Or is sex only important if it makes babies?

It's another side of you, an important, intimate side. If your argument is religious, then fine. But otherwise I don't see the point in depriving yourself.

You basically went where I was going with it. I mean. I wouldn't want to end up married to someone I wasn't sexually incompatible with. I mean. Some chicks are laaame in the sack. I couldn't handle that for the rest of my life.

Mastrap · Oct 30, 2007, 10:21 PM

Originally Posted by paul w

here in metropolis the ladies seem to want it as much as the average dude.

Quoted for truth that.