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MikeM33 · May 13, 2003, 12:02 AM

I busted-up my knee recently and she's coming here this wednesday with her baby girl. My friends advise me to NOT allow her to stay here but I want to see her again (and her baby).

They (my friends) think she'll never leave here, which was a problem before when she decided to divorce me years ago.

Am I just stupid or should it be cool?

MikeM

Yoda's Erotic Piggyback · May 13, 2003, 12:06 AM

You are going to get very drunk and depressed over it durring and after.

yellow no.5 · May 13, 2003, 12:14 AM

In situations where one is very emotional/deeply affected (an ex wife, for instance) and emotions and perceptions can run askew based on the level of involvement, to listen to friends' advice tends to be a wise choice. If your friends who know you well (and, most likely, her) tend to really want the best for you, and if they say NOT to, I'd listen. Plus, you've had some pretty major life changing things occur as of late if I've read your recent posts correctly, which can further through normal perceptions/feelings off a little.

Can you just see her at a *neutral* place, i.e. not your home? Maybe that'd be a better way to visit.

-yno.5

Face Ache · May 13, 2003, 12:49 AM

What the hell do you have to gain by a visit from your ex-wife? NOTHING.

Move on.

OptimusG4 · May 13, 2003, 01:29 AM

Change the locks and don't answer the door. She needs a daddy for her baby and you're the sucker.

mixin visuals · May 13, 2003, 01:35 AM

you guys suck... come on.

he said he wants to see her. and the good thing is she apparently does too when he needs some help healing.

this could be a good thing for him (as long as he isn't stuck in the past or still hooked on her) which could be the situation too.

guy... i would prepare yourself for the mental aspect of it. hobble down to the store and get some just in case condoms, and just roll with whatever happens.

the main thing is: don't do anything without a condom.

talisker · May 13, 2003, 01:37 AM

Originally posted by yellow no.5:
In situations where one is very emotional/deeply affected (an ex wife, for instance) and emotions and perceptions can run askew based on the level of involvement, to listen to friends' advice tends to be a wise choice.

Right. I would think there's more chance that your friends (who presumably know you and your ex-wife quite well) will give you good advice, than a bunch of demented wierdos on a techy internet forum who've never met you, and most likely never will.

Sealobo · May 13, 2003, 01:37 AM

This coming Wednesday? So you still have a lot of time to figure it out. Worry about that later... for now go have some crazy time with your buddies as usual.

Seriously, try to do as little as you can if she's really coming over with a baby.

Sealobo · May 13, 2003, 01:39 AM

Originally posted by mixin visuals:
the main thing is: don't do anything without a condom.

I don't get it. Not at all.

mixin visuals · May 13, 2003, 01:45 AM

Originally posted by sealobo:
I don't get it. Not at all.

hehehe. just don't want him getting into a situation that was comfortable and safe before, but now is far from it

slowtax · May 13, 2003, 04:31 AM

Originally posted by MikeM33:
So my ex wife is coming to stay with me

ooh - interesting!

I busted-up my knee recently

that ryhmes...

and she's coming here this wednesday with her baby girl.

See now I couldn't screw her when her child-with-another-man is in the house. (I assume thats why you agreed to let her stay?) I just hope you don't think your getting something over on the other guy

My friends

lol That six pack chilling on the bench

advise me to NOT allow her to stay here

thus she is unattractive

but I want to see her again (and her baby).

You've got to get over that. Think it through Mike! That would be a backward step.

typoon · May 13, 2003, 11:25 AM

I'm in agreement here with most of the people. First off I would ask yourself why is she asking you if she can stay? Doesn't she have her own life? Is she having problems with her current/ex husband/boyfriend? Do you still have feelings for her? If so why? Another question would then be if so why did you divorce her in the first place if you want to see her now. You either couldn't stand her and you both didn't get along, she or you cheated. If it's either one of thes why in god's name would you want to get bakc together? IMHO I think she is just looking for someone to look after her kid and a free place to stay.

wdlove · May 13, 2003, 11:37 AM

You didn't really say but is she just planning a short visit? Is the baby girl yours? How is your knee, I hope it's much better?

OldManMac · May 13, 2003, 11:37 AM

There could be a soap opera written about your life! Amazing!

Spliffdaddy · May 13, 2003, 11:49 AM

Life teaches you many lessons.

The most important of which is to never, under any circumstances, knowingly pass up a potential um, "good time" *wink wink*.

It's crossed your mind. You can't lie, dogg.

andi*pandi · May 13, 2003, 12:02 PM

visit, yes. It's healthy to have a positive friendship.

Let her move in, no.

gorickey · May 13, 2003, 12:21 PM

How's the job hunt going Mike? You file a law suit against your old employer yet?

chris v · May 13, 2003, 01:40 PM

Originally posted by Spliffdaddy:
Life teaches you many lessons.*

*Unless you're MikeM33.

Edit: winking smiley. It's all in good fun, really.
Mike, have fun storming the castle!

CV

G4ME · May 13, 2003, 03:42 PM

what ever you do hide your wallet good this time, you don't want your EX wife, and the hooker ripping you off

Yoda's Erotic Piggyback · May 13, 2003, 03:45 PM

Originally posted by gorickey:
How's the job hunt going Mike? You file a law suit against your old employer yet?

$10 says he hasn't looked into either.

mitchell_pgh · May 13, 2003, 04:11 PM

Listen to your friend!

The Placid Casual · May 13, 2003, 05:09 PM

Mike, just for the record, from what I have read of your previous posts on the subject, I think this is a bad, bad idea...

tintub · May 13, 2003, 10:18 PM

OldManMac · May 13, 2003, 10:55 PM

Originally posted by Yoda's Erotic Piggyback:
$10 says he hasn't looked into either.

Sleep well, knowing your money will stay with you!