[Tiresias]

This is weird.

My wife has an iPhone 4 and I have and iPhone 5.

When I send a text, sometimes it goes to her phone even if I am sending it to someone else.

It happened several times today—mostly (I think) when the message was delivered by iMessage.

It also goes to the persons phone and their replies go to both my phone and my wife's.

In other words, she gets copies of my texts to and from other people.

No, it was not a group chat!

What's up?

[cgc]

I'm sure she was also just notified of this forum post. Don't mind the portrait on the wall with the eyes that seem to follow your movement...

[Tiresias]

Ha ha ha!

Thanks for the laugh.

I think (wild guess) it might be because she didn't have an Apple ID and was using mine on her phone.

Today I set her up an Apple ID and I'll see if that resolves it.

But like I say it's weird cos it never happened when we both had the iPhone 4 and the same Apple ID.

[Spheric Harlot]

Update both devices to iOS 6. That should fix it.

[Tiresias]

Thank you Mr. Harlot.

Just updated her phone to the new iOS.

[Tiresias]

But it's still happening. Now even my sister in law's phone is mixed up in it

I won't bore you with the details of what text goes to who but basically we have four iPhones (3 iPhone 4s and 1 iPhone 5) all in a text tangle.

Is this likely to be a carrier issue (requiring a visit to the phone company) or a software issue I can sort out on my own?

Possibly important: we are all using the same Apple ID but this was never a problem before.

[SierraDragon]

Sorry I have no solutions, but I just want y'all to know that this is a great thread to wake up to.

Good luck with chatting up your service provider...

-Allen

[Tiresias]

Ok... Problem solved.

If anyone else has this problem, check your iMessage settings

Settings > Messages > iMessage > Send and receive messages from ....

Somehow we all had multiple numbers checked.

[Tiresias]

Looks like there won't be any chatting up, Sierra.

Too bad. The girls at the phone shop are smokin.

[Spheric Harlot]

Originally Posted by Tiresias 

Possibly important: we are all using the same Apple ID but this was never a problem before.

This is probably a bad idea, even IF you got this solved.

[Tiresias]

That sounds reasonable... But why, just out of curiosity?

[Spheric Harlot]

Your Apple ID is what buys all apps and music. It is linked to a bank account, and it is ideally your iCloud identity. If any one of you decides it might be useful to sync contacts and calendars via iCloud, all of you get them.

The simplest way to get separate syncing is to untangle all the accounts, which means that people lose stuff from the main account if you've all purchased stuff through the Apple ID, since purchases can't be transferred to other accounts.

Technically, an Apple ID and an iCloud account are separate things, but stuff tends to get confusing fast with more than just a married couple tied together.

[ghporter]

Take a look at your Address Book. I had issues with ringtones because of multiple entries with the same home phone number; I'd get a call from my wife with my "default" ringtone sometimes, and not other times, and it happened with text alert tones too. I wound up changing every entry that included our home phone (she's the only one who would call me from that number anyway), and that fixed the issue.

If you start your texts by selecting your wife's number from your address book, that could be the issue right there.

Another thing to look at is past group messages. I've seen other people with issues like this. They sent a group message once, and for some reason the phone decided that one of the numbers in that group meant all of them...

[Tiresias]

Right.

And there's been a bit of iPhone musical chairs in our family.

Since changing my iMessage settings it hasn't happened, however. But I'll do that just to be sure.