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Apr 6, 2009, 08:40 AM
 
Hey all

Some of you may remember I opened a thread about my Dad several months ago, where I mentioned he was diagnosed with lymphoma cancer. Readers of my site have seen posts about progress, etc., over the last 8 months.

Anyway, after months of fighting, my Dad finally passed away in his sleep in the wee hours of the morning yesterday.

He was diagnosed with asbestosis over 20 years ago, and the lymphoma and the chemo exacerbated the lung damage, and this is what ended up taking his life. He passed with Mom beside him, and he did so on his own terms: he removed his oxygen line is one final movement to say he was going on his call. He also passed at home, right where he wanted to. He was ready, he was just so, so tired.

I love you Dad — you were truly my best friend.

Thanks guys, for all the support so many of you have been offline.



"Everything's so clear to me now: I'm the keeper of the cheese and you're the lemon merchant. Get it? And he knows it.
That's why he's gonna kill us. So we got to beat it. Yeah. Before he let's loose the marmosets on us."
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Apr 6, 2009, 08:56 AM
 
Our prayers are with you and your family Maury.
     
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Apr 6, 2009, 09:13 AM
 
My condolences.
I'm glad he passed on his terms in the environment he wanted to be in with the people he wanted to be with. In charge of his life until the very end.
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Apr 6, 2009, 09:25 AM
 
My sincere and heartfelt condolences. I'm glad that he got to go on his own terms; dignity is one of the first things we lose when we're ill, and it looks like your father clung to his.

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Apr 6, 2009, 09:35 AM
 
I'm very sorry for your loss. Losing a dad and best friend is one of the saddest things in live.

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Apr 6, 2009, 09:38 AM
 
I'm very sorry for your loss, my condolences to you and your family.
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Apr 6, 2009, 09:40 AM
 
I'm sorry for your loss Maury. He'll be with you everywhere now.
     
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Apr 6, 2009, 09:50 AM
 
Dude. Prayers your way.
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Apr 6, 2009, 10:00 AM
 
I also lost my dad to cancer. I lost my grandma and grandpa the same year. It will take time, but it will get easier. Eventually you will only think about what made him special to you
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Apr 6, 2009, 10:05 AM
 
All our collective love goes out to you and your family.
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Apr 6, 2009, 10:13 AM
 
I am very sorry to hear of this news. My condolences to you and your family.

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Apr 6, 2009, 10:32 AM
 
Sorry to hear about your loss and my prayers go out to you and your family
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Apr 6, 2009, 10:37 AM
 
What a nice-looking couple.

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Apr 6, 2009, 11:20 AM
 
Sorry for your loss RAILhead. He was fortunate to die in his own terms with the people he loved by his side. Not many get to share that final moment with their family. I don't know what I can offer, but I'm always available to talk or whatever.
     
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Apr 6, 2009, 11:32 AM
 
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Apr 6, 2009, 02:11 PM
 
I'm very sorry, Maury. Many prayers coming your way, as well as for your whole family.
     
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Apr 6, 2009, 02:26 PM
 
My thoughts are with you and your family at this difficult time Railhead.

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Apr 6, 2009, 02:50 PM
 
Deepest condolences to you and your family.

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Apr 6, 2009, 04:02 PM
 
My sincere condolences and strength to you and your loved ones. I wish your father a peaceful journey. May your entire family begin to heal from the pain of losing him.

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Apr 6, 2009, 05:14 PM
 
Originally Posted by RAILhead View Post
I love you Dad — you were truly my best friend.
Sign of a life well lived.

Originally Posted by RAILhead View Post
And a chick magnet too.


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Apr 6, 2009, 06:01 PM
 
I'm sorry for your loss. Keep the good memories close.
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Apr 6, 2009, 06:59 PM
 
Maury, those are great pictures. Your dad looked like a great guy. I am sorry to hear about his passing.

Only this morning I thought, I really should book a flight and go visit my parents for a week or so. I'd hate to be in a situation where I was always "too busy" until it was too late.
     
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Apr 6, 2009, 07:09 PM
 
My sincerest condolences, RAIL.
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Apr 6, 2009, 07:22 PM
 
Originally Posted by RAILhead View Post
A good looking man.

Very sorry to hear Maury. I'm glad it was his choice in the end and that he could share it with the people he loved. My thoughts are with you.

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Apr 6, 2009, 07:40 PM
 
Originally Posted by RAILhead View Post
I love you Dad — you were truly my best friend.
You have my condolences.
     
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Apr 6, 2009, 07:50 PM
 
I'm sorry to hear about your loss RAILhead. Losing a parent, particularly a father is often difficult as there's nothing quite as seemingly immortal as a father. My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours my brother.
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Apr 6, 2009, 08:29 PM
 
I'm sorry to hear this news and hope the condolences of myself and the rest of the NN crowd show you how much we all care. Your father seems like he was a great man and I'm sure passing on his own terms meant as much to him as it does to your family.

Thank you for sharing such a personal and private part of your life with us.
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Apr 6, 2009, 09:27 PM
 
My condolences to you. I need to work harder on appreciating the time I have with my parents and other loved ones.
     
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Apr 6, 2009, 09:38 PM
 
Your parents were a beautiful couple in their day! From experience, losing a parent is a major event in one's life and I offer my sincere condolences. I think it's fantastic that he pulled his oxygen as his last act, pretty cool and memorable. Peace of heart and mind to you and your family.
     
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Apr 7, 2009, 12:24 AM
 
I fear that day, like nothing else in this life, and the thought that my parents are going to die gives me chills. I didn't turn out as they wanted, and my lifestyle is more than a little irritating to them, but I know how much they love me. My dad is my best friend, and my entire life I've been able to tell him anything, even the things that disappointed or scared him. It doesn't matter, the good and the bad are all the same to him, he just wants to be part of my life.

It sounds like you have the same relationship with your father too Maury, and I'm sure you know that it's the greatest gift he could have given you. It's part of what has made you the man you are today, and you'll carry that on to everyone you meet.

God bless you both,
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Apr 7, 2009, 01:00 AM
 
Thanks so much, all. Here's another cool pic my Mom had of the two of them after they just got married:

"Everything's so clear to me now: I'm the keeper of the cheese and you're the lemon merchant. Get it? And he knows it.
That's why he's gonna kill us. So we got to beat it. Yeah. Before he let's loose the marmosets on us."
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Apr 7, 2009, 01:06 AM
 
Gorgeous. Your dad was a lucky guy

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Apr 7, 2009, 01:18 AM
 
Sorry for you loss, sir. I'm not sure I can say I know what you're going through.

Btw, he had asbestosis? Where from?
     
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Apr 7, 2009, 09:02 AM
 
Asbestosis came from working insulation back in the day.
"Everything's so clear to me now: I'm the keeper of the cheese and you're the lemon merchant. Get it? And he knows it.
That's why he's gonna kill us. So we got to beat it. Yeah. Before he let's loose the marmosets on us."
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Apr 7, 2009, 09:25 AM
 
Originally Posted by RAILhead View Post
Asbestosis came from working insulation back in the day.
Commercial or industrial? In other words, did your dad have to pay for his health care after diagnosis, or did someone else-the company he worked for or insurance-foot the bill?

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Apr 7, 2009, 09:02 PM
 
Sorry to hear about your loss. I haven't lost a parent yet, but I know it's part of the deal. I hope the good relationship you had with your dad gives you some strength now when you need it.
     
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Apr 7, 2009, 11:17 PM
 

Losing a parent you were close to must be really tough. Best wishes, in what must be a really difficult time.
     
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Apr 8, 2009, 12:41 AM
 
Sorry for your loss Maury. It's something I feel I'd have a hard time dealing with. Seems best that his family was at his side and he was comfortable.

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Apr 8, 2009, 09:33 PM
 
Sorry for your loss. As my parents age I still can't imagine them not being around. God Bless.

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Apr 11, 2009, 12:54 PM
 
I'm very sorry to hear of your loss But it's obvious that he had a great family and a great son. I can't imagine what it would be like though.
     
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Apr 11, 2009, 01:24 PM
 
When in college, I was confident that death would never 'phase me' again. I lived in a mortuary for two years - just as a 'lockup man, showing people into the viewing rooms every other night (there were two of us 'working/living there) and transferring calls at night. Death just became an impersonal 'case name & number.' kind of thing.

... a couple of years later *MY* father passed away one bright cheerful day in May ... and people had to lead me around by the hand for a couple of days (daze).

It's never an easy thing.

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