I have the option to "open links from other applications in a new tab in the current window" selected. Its not working however.
I can click a link from an iChat conversation and it opens a new window. Now I know there are some issues working with links from gmail that open in new windows but this is from iChat.
To get to the preference go to Safari --> Preferences --> General. Its the option at the bottom of this screen.
I am going to nuke my plist next to see if that fixes it.
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