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macintologist · Oct 5, 2005, 01:53 AM

I've recently started "mini-dating" this girl at my college. We went to the Grill on campus together several times, now we're going to the football game together this Saturday. She's not hesitant at all, no excuses, no "no's" none of that. How can you tell if she's actually attracted to you, how can you tell if she's just being really friendly and that's all?

Any universal signs that all girls show? Let's pretend for a minute that this is the kind of girl that's not going to make any moves onto the guy.

-Mac

Cubeoid · Oct 5, 2005, 01:55 AM

Watch her eyes, the clues are there.

macintologist · Oct 5, 2005, 02:01 AM

A friend of mine gave some good advice. He asked me "is she hot?" and I said "she's not bad, I mean she's certainly not ugly or anything, she's pretty cute" and he said

"no, she is the most beautiful girl you've ever seen in your life"

I think the attitude would help.

Warung · Oct 5, 2005, 02:03 AM

Originally Posted by macintologist

Any universal signs that all girls show? Let's pretend for a minute that this is the kind of girl that's not going to make any moves onto the guy.

Get her into an intimate situation, where you can still maneuver yourself out with dignity. Make it a fun thing...like a dinner. At an opportune moment, when you've gotten "closer", try kissing her.

If she's "into you", presto, no problem. If she's not, - get ready for the right side of the ladder (or was it the left side?

). There is really not much more to it.

waxcrash · Oct 5, 2005, 02:05 AM

Originally Posted by Cubeoid

Watch her eyes, the clues are there.

Body language is just as important.

iLikebeer · Oct 5, 2005, 03:00 AM

Try asking her on a real date. Asking her to go down to the school cafeteria or football games are things you do with friends. You won't know what she thinks till you try, win or lose.

Railroader · Oct 5, 2005, 03:05 AM

If you can't tell "she's into you", then she isn't "into you".

cheery7upper · Oct 5, 2005, 03:30 AM

Originally Posted by iLikebeer

Try asking her on a real date. Asking her to go down to the school cafeteria or football games are things you do with friends. You won't know what she thinks till you try, win or lose.

I am in complete agreeance

macaddict0001 · Oct 5, 2005, 03:40 AM

Originally Posted by Railroader

If you can't tell "she's into you", then she isn't "into you".

not if shes really shy. but I have to agree with railroad don't ruin a perfectly good relationship.

macintologist · Oct 5, 2005, 03:49 AM

Originally Posted by iLikebeer

Try asking her on a real date. Asking her to go down to the school cafeteria or football games are things you do with friends. You won't know what she thinks till you try, win or lose.

We're on a pretty isolated campus, there's really nowhere to go

quote68 · Oct 5, 2005, 03:59 AM

Well.. whatever. Ask her if she'd like to go out sometime on a date. If she says yes, that means she likes you.

cheery7upper · Oct 5, 2005, 04:14 AM

Originally Posted by macintologist

We're on a pretty isolated campus, there's really nowhere to go

try asking her to go to see a movie with you - and try PAYING see what she does - that might actually not work but atleast it is a possible way. Also do you hang out with her in groups or is it just you two ? we need more info on the situation

Chuckit · Oct 5, 2005, 04:15 AM

In Before Doofy.

goMac · Oct 5, 2005, 04:19 AM

Pass her a note with hearts on it during class and tell her you think she's pretty at recess.

Any girl will think that's hawt.

RAILhead · Oct 5, 2005, 06:55 AM

You don't have a car? No Gas? What city are you in?

But mainly, though, why rush it? Enjoy her company before "taking it the next level." I never had to go after a girl -- you wait and make THEM come after you.

Guys have it all bassackwards nowadays. =/

Maury

ShotgunEd · Oct 5, 2005, 07:13 AM

Talk about her bra.

If she slaps you then its a deny-athon.

If not its

Doofy · Oct 5, 2005, 07:37 AM

Originally Posted by Chuckit

In Before Doofy.

...

Shaddim · Oct 5, 2005, 09:49 AM

take her dancing, rub tummies on the dance floor, it always helps.

Or, just kiss her after your team scores its first touchdown, you can always say that you got carried away and caught up in the moment.

BTW, you're not being assertive enough... FYI.

cmeisenzahl · Oct 5, 2005, 09:52 AM

Originally Posted by macintologist

I've recently started "mini-dating" this girl at my college. We went to the Grill on campus together several times, now we're going to the football game together this Saturday. She's not hesitant at all, no excuses, no "no's" none of that. How can you tell if she's actually attracted to you, how can you tell if she's just being really friendly and that's all?

Any universal signs that all girls show? Let's pretend for a minute that this is the kind of girl that's not going to make any moves onto the guy.

-Mac

If she lets the restraining order expire. ;-)

MacPoker101 · Oct 5, 2005, 09:59 AM

Go out with her for some drinks.

Tell her you like her...even if she is not into it, it won't be too embarrassing after a couple of drinks. You may even stay friends.

residentEvil · Oct 5, 2005, 10:06 AM

while she is over, head to the bathroom. get nakid, fluff, and come back out. if she bolts, she wasn't interested.

Shaddim · Oct 5, 2005, 10:26 AM

Originally Posted by residentEvil

while she is over, head to the bathroom. get nakid, fluff, and come back out. if she bolts, she wasn't interested.

Been there, done that, worked about 50% of the time.

Seriously, "How can you tell if she's into you?", her clothes are scattered around the house on the way to the BR (sometimes you don't make it that far).

residentEvil · Oct 5, 2005, 10:27 AM

Originally Posted by MacNStein

Been there, done that, worked about 50% of the time.

Seriously, "How can you tell if she's into you?", her clothes are scattered around the house on the way to the BR (sometimes you don't make it that far).

yeah, but that 50% of the time is allll good!

buffalolee · Oct 5, 2005, 10:35 AM

Hold her hands. If she likes it, she would let you hold it.

Doofy · 12:21 PM

What the heck is all this anyway? "if she's interested" ????

Assume that she is. Put it in your own mind that she is. Then she will be.
Basically, get yourself an ego - assume that there isn't a woman on the planet who doesn't want you. This will mirror externally and present her with an irresistible aphrodisiac.

Then you only need to ask if she's gay or not. 'Coz if she's not, then obviously she wants you.

cheery7upper · Oct 5, 2005, 11:58 AM

Originally Posted by Doofy

Then you only need to ask is if she's gay or not. 'Coz if she's not, then obviously she wants you.

Oh, OBVIOUSLY

Doofy · Oct 5, 2005, 12:00 PM

Originally Posted by cheery7upper

Oh, OBVIOUSLY

Have you tried it? No? Well STFU then.

Warung · Oct 5, 2005, 12:14 PM

Originally Posted by Doofy

Have you tried it?

Yes. Works about 80% of the time.

RAILhead · Oct 5, 2005, 01:05 PM

I had a girl "switch teams" for me once. She wasn't an "open" girl, so I never got to get any of that kind of action.

Of course, when she and I called it quits, it was because of the her ex girlfriend — so in a way, I DID get that kind of action. In a sense.

Maury

macintologist · Oct 5, 2005, 02:38 PM

Originally Posted by cheery7upper

try asking her to go to see a movie with you - and try PAYING see what she does - that might actually not work but atleast it is a possible way. Also do you hang out with her in groups or is it just you two ? we need more info on the situation

We're never in a group of friends, it's always just us two.

I couldn't take her to a movie, neither of us has a car.

JesusKungFu'[/quote]68 · Oct 5, 2005, 02:42 PM

I think the bra comment would work. Say you think her bra looks pretty or something. If she freaks then she's not into you.

Warung · Oct 5, 2005, 02:50 PM

Originally Posted by macintologist

I couldn't take her to a movie, neither of us has a car.

Take a cab...

residentEvil · Oct 5, 2005, 02:55 PM

Yeah, you are coming up with too many can'ts/couldn'ts. Just do. If it is something you really want to find out, you need to be more assertive

Mark Larr · Oct 5, 2005, 03:07 PM

If you ain't got a car, you ain't gettin any.

teney7 · Oct 5, 2005, 03:27 PM

I love threads like this. Remember the one about farting in front of your gf?

I think it will be hard for you to get more involved with the relationship if you just "look for signals".. you should act on this opportunity... dinner, date, etc..
IMO, I would wait awhile to tell her explicitly that you like her, just see how things go.

100 posts... WOO HOO!

Eug Wanker · Oct 5, 2005, 03:31 PM

Originally Posted by macintologist

Any universal signs that all girls show?

Often the female of the species will increase blood flow to the lips and face as well as other organs when she has achieved estrus and is receptive.

Mastrap · Oct 5, 2005, 03:41 PM

Generally speaking, if you find her in your bed in the morning, it means she's into you. Or you're into...

...anyway, enough of that.

ShotgunEd · 04:20 PM

Originally Posted by Eug Wanker

Often the female of the species will increase blood flow to the lips and face as well as other organs when she has achieved estrus and is receptive.

I reckon playing with hair is a tell tale flirting sign.

Use some risqué language, see if she reciprocates.

cheery7upper · Oct 5, 2005, 05:28 PM

what does she do when she is around you ?
Does she laugh alot, smile alot..etc
Do you have any mutual friends that could get you the inside scoop?

smacintush · Oct 5, 2005, 05:44 PM

All I can say is that I wouldn't even worry about trying not to mess up the friendship. I mean if you are into her, just ask her out and real date. If she is weirded out after that then oh well. In my personal experience it sucks ass to be "just friends" with someone you want more from.

FulcrumPilot · Oct 5, 2005, 05:51 PM

Ask her to give you a massage. If you dont think it was good then you got nothing to lose.

ghporter · Oct 5, 2005, 06:49 PM

Ummm... Are you asking how to tell if she's interested in having sex with you, or whether she's interested in a relationship? These are two different things at this point, and from my experience, a little nookie is good and all that, but a relationship is ALWAYS better.

As for asking for a massage, as FulcrumPilot suggests, I wouldn't go there. Instead, I'd OFFER to rub her shoulders or her feet. Apparently the people who design women's shoes hate women, so every woman on the planet should at least appreciate a foot massage. Get good at that and you'll be sure to have women around. After that, who knows?

besson3c · Oct 5, 2005, 07:25 PM

When she isn't looking, poop in her kitchen. If she starts to freak out, you'll know that you didn't have very much capital to spend, so this truth test will let you know that it's time to dump her. If she doesn't, then you know that you've really impressed her up until this point, and you can let her in on your little test. Hindsight will allow you two to laugh and grow closer.

besson3c · Oct 5, 2005, 07:26 PM

Originally Posted by ghporter

Ummm... Are you asking how to tell if she's interested in having sex with you, or whether she's interested in a relationship? These are two different things at this point, and from my experience, a little nookie is good and all that, but a relationship is ALWAYS better.

As for asking for a massage, as FulcrumPilot suggests, I wouldn't go there. Instead, I'd OFFER to rub her shoulders or her feet. Apparently the people who design women's shoes hate women, so every woman on the planet should at least appreciate a foot massage. Get good at that and you'll be sure to have women around. After that, who knows?

Then poop in her kitchen.

Ulrich Kinbote · Oct 5, 2005, 07:27 PM

If she eats your sausage, then she likes you.

macintologist · Oct 5, 2005, 07:27 PM

Originally Posted by smacintush

All I can say is that I wouldn't even worry about trying not to mess up the friendship. I mean if you are into her, just ask her out and real date. If she is weirded out after that then oh well. In my personal experience it sucks ass to be "just friends" with someone you want more from.

Best advice in this thread so far

Ulrich Kinbote · Oct 5, 2005, 07:30 PM

Originally Posted by macintologist

Best advice in this thread so far

Thanks.

besson3c · Oct 5, 2005, 07:34 PM

Originally Posted by macintologist

Best advice in this thread so far

I thought that pooping in the kitchen advice was pretty good, whoever said that...

Ghoser777 · Oct 5, 2005, 09:06 PM

Girls dig confidence - make the first move.

wallinbl · Oct 5, 2005, 09:25 PM

Originally Posted by macintologist

I've recently started "mini-dating" this girl at my college. We went to the Grill on campus together several times, now we're going to the football game together this Saturday. She's not hesitant at all, no excuses, no "no's" none of that. How can you tell if she's actually attracted to you, how can you tell if she's just being really friendly and that's all?

Dude, sack up and kiss the girl. Really. I spent a long time being friends with girls only to later realize that they were all in to me and I lacked the self confidence to realize it. Now that I look back on it, some of them were practically beating me over the head.